We were married ten years. The last few years of marriage were difficlt as I wanted to have a family and she wanted to socialize and have friends. It was tough to stay at home and be by myself without the one I loved. I have dated and had sex, yet the memory is still so strong. I have made many attempts to recover and even get back to her. Maybe I have not given myself enough time to grieve. I am taking some time off from women, hope that helps.
2006-06-07 05:59:22 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
How long has it been since you divorced? You just might need more time. You'll know when you're ready for a serious relationship again. Take time to find yourself again and reassess what you want out of life and in a mate. If you don't feel you're doing ok on your own, seek some counseling. It really does help to talk things out and put them on the table.
2006-06-07 06:06:12 · answer #1 · answered by eehco 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Dude, I feel for you and the situation that you are in for I have been there myself. I don't think that going into a social coma, which is what may happen in the end, is the answer. I am not saying to visit nightclubs and bars or make a pass at every woman you see. But to keep yourself open and love will find you, just as it did me. My boyfriend died and I can never see him again, but I have good memories. If you truely love her, and she refuses to see what she has, then it would be best to let her go and find someone who would appreiciate what you have to offer other than sex. Maybe it would be a good idea to let the next one know that you would like to have a family sometime, somewhere in the begining of the relationship to make sure you are both on the same path.
2006-06-07 13:13:44 · answer #2 · answered by lonelyfox1971 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just becasue she fell out of love with you, does not mean it had anything to do with you. 10 years ago you thought you were marrying the one. Sometimes the one is not the right one but it takes time to figure it out. You'll love again, and hopefully have babies. Losing a love is like someone dying and we all go through the process. Hang in there.
2006-06-07 13:29:32 · answer #3 · answered by Simply Lovely 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You'll never forget what you had...and you shouldn't. Just understand it ended and look forward to finding someone else that shares the same love you still have within yourself...its fine to take a break from the dating scene and it just might be when someone comes knocking on your heart strings...just don't lose all hope that you'll never get that feeling back...because as long as you don't shut the door on happiness you'll leave the opportunity for someone to enter your life once again...good luck.
2006-06-07 13:08:56 · answer #4 · answered by Goodspeed 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes this is the best thing for you... You also need counseling and help to even start to heal from the pain of the last relationship and the impact it has had on your life. Take your time and heal and then move slowly and start dating again someday but not right now!
2006-06-07 13:22:53 · answer #5 · answered by Fast Steve 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
They say it usually takes you half the amount of time you were with someone to get over them....so that would be five years or so. Who knows if its true, but time does heal all wounds.
2006-06-07 13:06:00 · answer #6 · answered by Jen G 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
she obviously isnt what u need. u are both going in different directions. move on i think, or ull end up regretting that u didnt.
2006-06-07 13:08:26 · answer #7 · answered by foreverb18 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋