We have been married for 2 years and she is working in one of the top advertising companies in the country. She is more carrer minded than I am and in a sense, more successful than I. I only run a business with my shop. I must also add, she is also beautiful and attractive.. This is what other people also said.
In a sense, all these suit her. She is very extrovert, very strong willed, very determined and demanding. That is also why she could rise to the top of her company so fast. I must admit, there are many occasions I can't keep up with her requirements. There are just certain things I can't provide for her. Still, we managed to love each other and give and take.
Recently, her boss has decided to go overseas to set up a venture. She was selected to go with him to do that. She told me they would be there for 3 years. She was very adamant to go as this is a chance to prove herself and also to get promoted. She is also very willing to go even though it will be very stressful.
2006-06-07 05:56:52 · 8 answers · asked by StandTall 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
The problem now is that, she will be leaving me and for 3 years. This is very unacceptable for a marriage.
Besides, I really worry about her being seduced. Some people may feel I should not be too inward looking, but in her business, she talks to clients, have dinner with them and sometimes drinks with them. She is very career minded.
Besides, as this is a very demanding job, she will be under a lot of stress and there will be no one there to be with her.
Moreover, she will also be with her boss most of the time, working together in a far away land, sometimes till late at night.
I really worry for our marriage and worry about her remain faithful. She is also rather attractive. In fact, a few months after our marrriage, an old flame still called her up when he did not know we are married.
I really worry she may do something stupid. 3 years is also a very long time and she also needs solace time and again.
What can I do?
2006-06-07 06:06:02 · update #1
Its hard to answer because you didn't say how you feel. Do you not want her to go or do you support her?
2006-06-07 06:00:47 · answer #1 · answered by grudgrime 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
As much as I'm sure you don't want to hear this, it sounds like the two of you have grown apart. You sound very down to earth and concerned with her happiness and you seem to have been willing to put your happiness on the back burner. While this is admirable, you can't always put your happiness out to pasture.
Although there's always two sides to a story (and often the truth lies in between) it sounds like your wife is willing to sacrifice everything for her career, including her marriage. If that's the case, then there's nothing you can do to prevent this from happening. The choice you have to make is do you try to hold on and see what happens or do you call it quits now and you each move on in your lives, trying to find your own happy place. No one can answer that for you. It's a choice only you (and your wife) can make.
I wish you the best of luck.
2006-06-07 13:06:29 · answer #2 · answered by cgspitfire 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
As a women, I would NEVER leave my husband for 3 years for ANY career. Are you able to go as well? would you? Does she want you too?
You sound very insecure. She sounds selfish. Of course I only know what you have said here.
i hope if you two REALLY love each other you can find a way to work through it.
2006-06-07 13:03:41 · answer #3 · answered by ladyjno7 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hire a manager for your bussiness and go with your spouse for an adventure. It will be new, fun and you can still work on your bussiness from afar.
Go with your wife and support her, don't get your ego bruised because she is sucessfull, she is beautiful smart...she is yours! Don't let professional jeaplosy get in the way of being happy, go with her and have fun overseas!
Go luck!
2006-06-07 13:02:23 · answer #4 · answered by Blunt 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
That is really a hard one....have you considered going with her? I really don't know all the specifics so that makes it harder as well. Best wishes
2006-06-07 13:02:15 · answer #5 · answered by colorist 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
That will be the end of your marriage. She is too ambitious and your marriage will be the sacrificial lamb.
2006-06-07 13:00:32 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
if you have trust and honesty than she should go it will help her career and you don't want to stand in her way if you love her and she loves you there should be no problem good luck
2006-06-07 13:02:22 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
So? Go with her........
2006-06-07 12:59:43 · answer #8 · answered by AsianPersuasion :) 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋