this weekend my neice(17) is bringing a boyfriend home to meet the rest of the family and they want to sleep in the same bed together and i know that shes sexually active and im afriad if i let him in she will get knocked up or get aids or somthing like that.,what should i do?
2006-06-07 05:35:37 · 25 answers · asked by misty 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Adolescent
Don't let them sleep in the same bedroom! It's your house your rules. If they want to have sex in his car or something they can go for it but its rude and sluty if they do it in your house when you are practically right there.
2006-06-07 08:24:39 · answer #1 · answered by stmmay87 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Talk to her about it before she comes. Tell her the consequences if it does happen. And even separate them and don't let them sleep in the same bed! It's THAT easy! Tell her that she shouldn't be doing it until she is married and it could end in serious consequences. The boy friend may leave her if he finds out she's pregnant, but you will always be there for her. No matter what. You have to support her, and the best way to do that is keep an eye on them while he's here, so it doesn't happen.
2006-06-07 05:41:23 · answer #2 · answered by la. 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't let them. You make the rules of your house and out of respect she should follow them. If they were engaged to be or were married it would be different. If she wants that desperately to sleep with him tell her to get a motel. Just let her know that her sleeping in the same bed as him under your roof makes you uncomfortable and remind her that it is only for the weekend and then she can go back to doing whatever it was that she did outside of your home.
2006-06-07 05:43:32 · answer #3 · answered by bluekitty8098 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk to her mom and see what she thinks. I don't think that you should allow them to sleep in the same bed. If they want to sleep together, than give them some names of nearby hotels. They aren't adults, they are teenagers. Don't back down on what you feel comfortable with. They are guests in your house and they need to follow your rules. As far as getting Aids goes, chances are that they have had sex and that is beyond your control.
2006-06-07 10:18:44 · answer #4 · answered by jack russell girl 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you're uncomfortable with it, don't allow them to sleep in the same bed. Keep in mind, if they're having sex she's at risk for AIDs (and other STDs) and getting pregnant and she's going to do it no matter what if that's what she wants to do. BUT you can make sure she doesn't do it in your house. Maybe you could also talk to her about your concerns in a non-threatening way.
2006-06-07 06:13:12 · answer #5 · answered by ericalsmith2004 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He would not like pasta?? unload him! Ha ha, basically kidding. the different day i made an exceedingly solid fowl burrito with spiced refried beans. basically upload a million/4 cup of canola oil to a skillet over medium warmth. Chop onions (a million cup) and upload to a skillet. Sautee the onions for around 7 or 8 minutes, then upload one tbsp. of floor cumin. After some extra minutes, upload a can of refried beans (I used non fat--they style precisely a similar) and destroy up with a wood spoon or fork interior the skillet. Stir and cook dinner till cooked in the time of. upload a million/4 tsp. of floor cayenne and floor pepper to style. i offered pre-cooked grilled fowl breast from my interior of sight grocery deli; that stored a number of prep time. previously, chop the fowl into chew-sized products and positioned aside. Grate as lots cheese and lettuce as you think of you would be wanting for 2 burritos. i want to propose entire wheat tortillas, yet discover them in a burrito length--mine have been a tad small. What else does he like? I particularly have extra powerful recipes to boot...and a choosy boyfriend lol.
2016-10-30 08:50:58 · answer #6 · answered by sturms 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all they should not be sleeping in the same bed in your families home cuse that is disrespectful. Also you need to make sure she uses a condom at all times, tell her get tested cause she's a fast one.
2006-06-07 05:40:47 · answer #7 · answered by Queen 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
let her you said your self she is active just give her some good advice and a box of condoms and tell her also the only sure way is no way
(i used 3 at the same time all 3 riped now we've got a 2 year old )
2006-06-07 06:01:18 · answer #8 · answered by rickherr10 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you don't feel comfortable about their sleeping arrangement, let them know. It's your house and you have every right to set the rules. Your niece is not even an adult. If she does get pregnant, will her parents blame you? You are the only responsible adult here.
2006-06-07 06:09:59 · answer #9 · answered by Mimi 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your house your rules. Don't put yourself in an uncomfortable situation just to please someone else. It will probably upset her, but she will understand. Just because you know they are having sex doesn't make it okay for them to do it in your home. At 17 she really doesn't have a say in what's okay. Having sex has so many risks. Just for your peace of mind tell her you are not comfortable with them sharing a room.
2006-06-07 06:51:29 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋