We have not seen each other for 2 months. He shows up at my work out of the blue and stayed for 4 hours. I went to his house about 10days later.... And, All i really wanted was to talk and hold each other. We made love instead. He showed me what I wanted and told me what I wanted. I have filed for divorce and did not stop it even after we talked about doing that. My kids are not too thrilled about hubby and I getting together. My kids are 21, 18 and 14.. I chose a guy once before over my kids and that was a mistake, I dont want to do that again. I live with a guy that I thought was my friend... but he wants more, even though I have told him that I dont and cant handle that. I just want to run and hide somewhere.... Someone please help me!!
2006-06-07 05:31:34 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
You didn't say anything about what caused the separation, jus 5 months after marriage. You'll have to find out the true reasons why you want time away from him and unless those issues are resolved it tough to be happy together. Also, marriage is not easy, it requires a LOT of compromise, ask yourself... arethe two of you throwing in the towel too easily? Does he want it to work out? Do you?
2006-06-07 05:39:27 · answer #1 · answered by Flyyin 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Why did you seperate in the first place? Were you fighting all the time? Was he hitting you/ abusing you? If he was abusing you then never get back together with him. What has changed in 5 months? If it was bad 5 months ago then he probably has not changed. You could start dating him again and hold off on the divorce for now. If it starts becoming the bad relationship again then continue with the divorce after a few weeks of dating him.
2006-06-07 12:42:03 · answer #2 · answered by Educated 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hmmm.....well you should ask your children why they don't like him. Honestly if i was in your position i'll focus more on my children because they would be the most important thing for me than some guy that shows me a good time. Think about it, guys come and go, but your children are always going to be with you. When you have children you need to put everything aside and worry about them. Sadly you have to forget about sex and guys....hey and i'm only 17...so what do i know....
2006-06-07 12:38:35 · answer #3 · answered by Buttercup 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to follow your heart. As for you children you need to do what is best for you. You need to be happy to be the best mom. I didnt say dont do what is best for them either. They should be the most important in your life. If this guy is hurting them in anyway then stay away from him. The kids dont want to see you unhappy or hurt. That might be what they are afraid of.
2006-06-07 13:04:39 · answer #4 · answered by belli 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why did the two of you seperate to begin with if i may ask? You should work on your marriage as you are still newly weds. Seek counseling and help too!
2006-06-07 12:48:09 · answer #5 · answered by Fast Steve 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
why were you seperated after only 5 months? Maybe he realized you were who he wants. Why do you live with another guy that is not your husband?
2006-06-07 12:38:06 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The only person who can make you happy, IS YOU.
hiding only makes you a coward.
I think you know the answer to this one you just need confirmation.
Read first line again.
2006-06-07 12:38:59 · answer #7 · answered by maxine553 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
do IT run and hide**NEVER GO BACK**it never changes*atleast not for long
2006-06-07 12:39:50 · answer #8 · answered by goddess 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋