My husband and I moved in with another young couple. The wife and I are really close and my husband and his friend are good friends. There are no arguements or conflicts, its just that the couple we moved in with are not really clean people. The bathroom and the kitchen are really nasty and the floor is gross with stains and stuff. My husband and I cleaned up the kitchen and the bathroom really well and they were really impressed. I just hope that the cleaning issue doesn't resolve in any conflicts even though it seems as if my husband and I are doing a lot of the cleaning. What should I do?
2006-06-07 05:30:31 · 13 answers · asked by ♥Lily♥ 3 in Home & Garden ➔ Cleaning & Laundry
You could sit down and talk with your friends and create a time table to divide up the chores. Maybe this week you and your husband are in charge of the bathroom and the other couple is in charge of the kitchen. Then next week it could swap.
Make your expectations clear - i.e. does cleaning the bathroom each week involve scrubbing the tub and toilet or simply wiping down surfaces and making sure the clutter is picked up?
In turn ask the other couple what is important to them and try to accomodate some of their preferences as well (for example, maybe they have an issue with how loud you have the tv on late at night)
If you can't come to an agreement it's possible this living arrangement won't work and it's time to go apartment or house hunting.
2006-06-07 05:37:58 · answer #1 · answered by Tamborine 5 · 10⤊ 2⤋
Bad move! The best way to stay close with friends is not to live with them! Secondly, if you moved into their house and don't think they are sanitary enough, chances are you won't change their ways. If you plan on staying with them for quite a while, then you should try to be diplomatic, yet straightforward as possible about the house common areas being kept clean, otherwise you will start talking about them behind their backs and resenting them. That will eventually crumble your relationship. Husbands and wives living in their own home have problems in these areas, what makes you think it wouldn't be a problem moving in with another couple? If you are close to this couple as you say, you should have checked out their domestic habits before moving in with them. Even if this is saving you some money, there are some things that are not worth it! Cleaning is an issue, especially as far as you and your spouse are concerned. If you can persuade your friends to clean up, then you have done well. If your relationship is what you say it is with them, then you should not have too much of a problem in keeping a good channel of communication open, after all you are sharing the same house!
2006-06-07 05:58:03 · answer #2 · answered by macfifty06 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Living with other ppl in your home require patience and alot of effort, it seems you are already giving them the patience for them to wake up and turn around on things.
You should lay down some ground rules on the house that everyone agrees to follow; like keeping the kitchen & bathroom clean after use, put stuff back after using it, taking out the garbage, etc. You can even setup schedule on cleaning or organizing part of the house, or just make sure everyone is on the same page on how things should be done around the house.
After rules are lay out, things should be better than before. Although you probably have to enforce it from time to time, but they should catch the idea and doing it on their own.
If they still slack off, then its time to kick them out and find new roommate.
2006-06-07 05:38:49 · answer #3 · answered by thsiung 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The old roomate delemma...perfectly good friends turn into terrible roommates. It happens all the time. To get them to do as you like means being a pain in the butt to them and to let it go and be nice about it means extra work that you don't deserve.
People usually don't change too much no matter what you say.Start looking for a way out now, it only gets worse. If you start looking and explain how you feel, maybe they will realize they have to change to keep the arrangement, but don't be demanding or confrontational...its not worth a fight in your home.
2006-06-07 05:42:52 · answer #4 · answered by FreddyBoy1 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First, does everyone who lives there work? If so, I agree with the other answers you got so far. If not whoever doesn't work should do most of the work, but, everyone else should pitch in and help out too. A chore list is good. You should sit down and give them the "We're all adults here" speech. Be very nice about it though you don't want to good friends into enemies.
2006-06-07 06:45:58 · answer #5 · answered by LittleLady 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
we have the same problem and how we resolved it, was we all sat down and came up with a monthly chore list...pretty much all the days of the month had something that needed to be done with the exception of 5-6 days where we all had a break and didnt have any chores...and like..on the days we had chores..we each like had 2-3 things to do....things get done that way without having someone feel like theyre the only one cleaning around there...try it out...
2006-06-07 05:37:20 · answer #6 · answered by lastofodyinbreed 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You definetly need to talk to them about cleaning up. You all share the house so it's not your sole responsibility. But that's not all you can do. If that doesn't work then maybe you should stop cleaning for a few days. They might start to notice and realize things have changed. Either they'll start to pick up themselves or they might ask you what's going on. If they ask just tell them it's everyones responsibility to clean up and they need to help out!
2006-06-07 05:44:06 · answer #7 · answered by peacenlove 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk to them and get a rota of who is in charge of what chores. If they fail to do their chores on their day, then I would seriously consider moving out. Why should it always be left for you to do? The more you do it, the more they will let you....
2006-06-07 05:38:01 · answer #8 · answered by lollipoppett2005 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to sit down together and let them know that you do not like it. So people hate the site of mess while others it does not bother them at all.
2006-06-07 05:56:10 · answer #9 · answered by εїз♥ ZÕË♥ εїз 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it is so hard ot live wiht other people. i had this roommate once in college that would leave dirty dishes ubder her bed, we had ants!!! so everytime she left someting dirty out i would just throw it away. just clean dishes for yourself and so on, our stuff will e clean but theres wil be dirty, theyll get the point. or you could set up a chore chart
2006-06-07 06:44:46 · answer #10 · answered by JD96Candy 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋