my girlfriend won eat she eats then pukes wat should i do i just preposed to her and i love her alot but wat should i do to get her back to eating she didnt eat for awhile and im worried about her wat can i do?
2006-06-07 05:20:49 · 38 answers · asked by Gir 2 in Health ➔ General Health Care ➔ Other - General Health Care
It's not something you should attempt to deal with on your own.
If she's not ready to let go of the eating disorder, which is her current way of coping, she will likely be uncooperative, defensive, and resent you for trying to "help".
If she agrees to see her doctor, you have no way of knowing if she will be completely honest. You can approach your own doctor, a counselor, psychologist, or look for an eating disorder clinic in your area and follow their guidance and advice.
If she's not interested in seeking help, often help will come to her. There are trained professionals who will visit an unwilling person's home, talk with them there, and come up with a plan together.
You need to remove yourself from this situation or it will come between you. You don't want her to feel like you are forcing her to do something or she may feel controlled by you, which is not a good way to start a marriage. You should also consider putting your relationship on "pause" until she is successfully dealing with this issue.
She needs to face this head on, but with your support... by her side, not dragging her by the hand.
Step back and let trained professionals help.
You need only be the one to encourage her, not the one to "fix" her.
2006-06-19 12:46:55 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The late singer Karen Carpenter died at age 32 reportedly of a heart attack related to her problem with anorexia and possibly bulimia. Your fiancee is trying to stay slim.
A young woman diagnosed with anorexia or bulimia typically has been raised in a household with demanding, controlling and critical parents who strive for perfection. Exterior looks are too highly prized and are the object of regular commentary. The desire to be thin and attempts to restrict weight are the triggers that provoke the illness.
The bulimic may have a normal weight. Typically, an anorexic woman suffers from a grossly distorted self-image convinced that she is seriously overweight regardless of an overly thin physique.
With increasing severity your fiancee's life may become more chaotic with the focus increasingly on the bulimic behaviour. She may find her own behaviour disgusting and be deeply ashamed of it so that it almost always occurs in secret.
Your fiancee needs your love and support. She also needs medical and psychological treatment. There are residential treatment centers throughout the country which treat eating disorders. No one should try to treat an eating disorder entirely on his or her own.
2006-06-19 09:13:07 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Take her to the doctor. Be the man (or woman) and make her go. If she has a problem, make her fix it. Be easy on her, most people who have an eating disorder does not know it. They look in a mirror and think "I'm fat". You really should get her some help. Call a hot line for more info. Here is a number 800-841-1515
2006-06-07 05:28:10 · answer #3 · answered by cherylie1 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She needs both physical and mantal treatment becasue an eating disorder involves both of those aspects. Get her to a treatment center, some places are solely for eating disorders but most hospitals have treatment areas for that as well. She needs to see who she really is and learn that she is hurting her body with her actions. Give her positive support through the treatment and encourage her to eat. Make some phone calls and get her help right away.
2006-06-07 05:29:49 · answer #4 · answered by K 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This site has good information and advice about Bulemia.
http://www.mamashealth.com/bulimia.asp
Your girlfriend has a serious problem and if you are committed to helping her and seeing her through it you need to go into it with your eyes open.
She needs to get counseling and professional help. Her physician would be a good resource for a referral. You can offer to go with her to an appointment, but if she chooses to go alone support her in that too. She needs to feel empowered to do what she needs to do and what she feels is best.
If she refuses to get help - give some serious consideration to your own position in all of this. Are you prepared to marry her if she is unwilling to admit she has a problem and get help?
Another approach you can take is to suggest that you get premarital couples counseling. It's a good idea anyway because it helps you to prepare for a healthy marriage. That counselor can also offer you and your girlfriend resources and help for her eating disorder and it might offer a less intimidating opportunity for your girlfriend to seek help.
If you need a referral for a couples counselor you can ask your doctor or its possible the human resources department where you work would have information.
Good luck.
2006-06-07 05:29:47 · answer #5 · answered by Tamborine 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get a doctor to see her, and if need be, get her hospitalized. This is a medical condition
Do whatever it takes, and be there for her until this is finished, at least. She needs you now, and you should be tough.
Also, hold off the marriage until she is better. This might hurt you both, but she's not in a very stable condition right now. Wait until the doctor (NOT her) says she's better.
Looks like you have your work cut out for you, good luck!
2006-06-07 05:22:22 · answer #6 · answered by asaaiki 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She has severe eating disorder. It can either be chemical (metabolic or digestive-tract disorders) or psycho-sematic, which is a combination of low self-esteem, over-sensitive nature, social environment and physical condition. Such disorders go by several names---buleimia or some other form. Best course is to take her to a doctor immediately and get her condition diagnosed so that she can be treated by the right physician.
2006-06-07 05:25:37 · answer #7 · answered by paanbahar 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She has a serious problem, try helping her and taking her to eat a lot and buy her food all the time....make sure she doesn't run to the bathroom afterwards, or talk to her about seeing a doctor.
2006-06-07 05:24:09 · answer #8 · answered by inevitable 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Take her to a treatment center for bulimics. Make sure there aren't any other health issues. It could be your buggy eyes Bart. LOL
2006-06-07 05:22:37 · answer #9 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell her that if she really loved you then she would start eating and stop being so nasty. Seriously, that is really bad for her, and if she doesn't stop you need to take her to the doctor. It could kill her.
2006-06-19 23:59:49 · answer #10 · answered by blissful-imagination 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋