ok married for 7 years have a kid got treated like crap. getting divorced now but he treats his much younger girlfriend like gold never did me. he perfers to spend more time with her than his own son.
2006-06-07 05:18:36 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
If that's the way that he wants to be, then as sad as it sounds let him. If he doesn't want to be involved in the raising of his own child, I say his loss and your child is probably going to be better off without him. I'm not saying that you shouldn't allow your child to spend time with his father, but don't push the father to take the child.
You could always try to get full custody, but I really think joint custody is always the way to go unless there's been physical or extreme mental abuse. Regardless you should keep a record of when he calls to speak to his son/visits etc. That way if it ever comes up for some reason, you have proof of his neglect.
As far as how he treats his new girl friend. Who cares, I know it's hard not to, but you have to move on. Learn to take care of yourself and your son before getting yourself involved with anyone else.
And remember to lean on your family and friends for support.
2006-06-07 05:25:48 · answer #1 · answered by SmilingG 3 · 5⤊ 0⤋
Give it time and she'll eventually see his true colors. He had to have done something right when you first met him for you to have married him the first place. It's easy to be good to someone at the beginning of a relationship.
Let him live his life and you can concentrate on being good to your son. Don't dwell over him and his new girlfriend because it doesn't do you any good. You're better off now so enjoy your new life!
2006-06-07 12:22:00 · answer #2 · answered by Tamborine 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Getting Divorced? What the Heck!!! Don't worry How he treats his new thing like... U see Soon enough he'll treat her like "Crap" too... Your son is better off not growing up learning His Father's ways. Want U'r son to Treat Women like his daddy????
2006-06-07 12:23:39 · answer #3 · answered by Scott 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he marries his girlfriend, he will treat her like crap too! Warn her and move on with your life. There are plenty of nice guys out there that will treat you with all the love and respect that you deserve.
2006-06-07 12:20:44 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well that is a problem well the reason he doesn't want to around your son he remind him of you he want to for get about you and any time he around his son it bring back rember of you and he in lust with this other women intil she dump his *** then he well want to come back to you this is all was the case but unforley the kids are the one who suffer in these relationship so the best think for you to do in contact big brother and big sister and find your son a friend to hang out with.then take your husband to court and have the judge put a restraining order against your x to stay away from you and your son and get the most out of him for child surport good luck
2006-06-07 12:31:52 · answer #5 · answered by little ace 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
One of these days your x will grow up. I just hope its before he lose some quality time with his son. You can't make it up to your son for his father not being there but do your best to give him the love and time he deserves.
2006-06-07 12:21:59 · answer #6 · answered by kitcat 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Save you energy for you and your son. The other woman will learn like you did. She would not want to hear what you had to say anyway.
Life is too short for you to worry about your ex-hubby and his new found love.
2006-06-07 12:42:41 · answer #7 · answered by Unique 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Girl just keep moving forward. because if you waste your time thinking about it. its going to upset you more. just chill, relax, unwind, and move on.
after your ex hubby, gets tired of her, or gets bored with her... he is going to treat her the same way... I'm sure he started off with you the same way. treating you like gold. if he didn't you wouldn't had married him.. well I think so anyway.
But my point is, dont worry about what they got going on. just worry about you and your son, and make sure he doesn't treat his girl the same when he gets one... teach him how to be a good man.
Just make you and your son happy, forget that fool girl. you feel me... take care.
2006-06-07 12:25:31 · answer #8 · answered by TeTe 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he is not a good father if he wants to spend more time with his new gf than with his own son this relationship with them probably wont last dont worry hang in there
2006-06-07 12:20:52 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get out of his life. If your son wants to see him, you should allow that still. But for your own sake and kids sake get out. My parents should of split years ago...when my brother and I were kids. My dad didn't want to leave because of us, but he should have. A happy parent, makes a kids childhood nicer and leaves better memories. :)
2006-06-07 12:21:35 · answer #10 · answered by Girl Goes Back To The Future 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋