If a person is having a wedding or gratuation party and they would feel more comfortable dancing the first dance with their grandfather instead of their step father; is that wrong?, because they don't want to make their step father feel bad, what can they do?
2006-06-07 05:13:11 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in News & Events ➔ Other - News & Events
You obviously have good relationship with your step-father if you are worried about hurting his feelings. You should be able to sit down and have a talk with him about this. Explain to him that while you appreciate his role in your life, he has only been there for part of it, whereas your grandfather has been there from the beginning and has shared all your other important milestones and you would like him to have the first dance with you. I'm betting that he already knows you have a special bond with your grandfather and he should be able to accept that. Make sure that you include him in the rest of the festivities as much as possible though. Step-parents can wind up feeling leftout at family celebrations, hovering around the edges while others talk about family history and events that happened before they became part of the picture. Make sure you dance with him right after your grandfather does, or perhaps you could arrange to have him cut in before the dance is over. That way you could share the spot-light with both of them.
2006-06-07 05:46:06 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is an important step and you need to take it carefully without hurting none of them(Step father and grandfather).The best would be to ask your step father that you are in a dilema,you want to have first dance with him but your grand-father is expecting to dance with you and you do not want to hurt anyone;s feelings.Ask him to suggest some answer and whatever he suggests,you should do it that way.
2006-06-19 01:40:41 · answer #2 · answered by khan a 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just explain to him that since your grandfather is older, you want to have the first dance with him, but you will dance with your step father later.
2006-06-07 12:17:43 · answer #3 · answered by ginaforu5448 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
More detail please.
How long has He been your step Dad?
If you grew up with him... Then suggest that you dance with grandpa first because he is the Eldest...
And maybe carry this to the groom, he could dance with the older member of his family. Good luck.. everything is achievable, if approached cautiously..
2006-06-18 16:22:49 · answer #4 · answered by 4mom 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just tell him that u r not trying to hurt his feelings but u want to have the first dance with ur grandpa instead.
2006-06-18 17:42:20 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just say that you feel uncomfortable dancing with your step
2006-06-20 10:48:15 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Whats the usual pecking order?
Comply with tradition.
Been to a couple of weddings.
Can't stand the things.
2006-06-21 12:13:01 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just explain it to him. It probably wil hurt his feelings a bit....but he's got to understand its you're day and he has to accept the way you'd like to do things
2006-06-17 09:34:05 · answer #8 · answered by bigjimmyguy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just be honest. Also why n is this on news and events?
2006-06-16 11:27:37 · answer #9 · answered by Grandma Susie 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Expalin to him!! Its ok to feel like that
2006-06-16 21:16:00 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋