2006-06-07 04:53:38 · 57 answers · asked by scotteaseme 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Thank you for your answers.. I may sound bad but I am not. The problem is our marriage has gone stale and has no chance of return. Yes I have two children and went back for them. I will do anything for them... but am still deeply in love with this other woman.
2006-06-07 05:21:06 · update #1
get professional help. counselling.
2006-06-07 04:54:48 · answer #1 · answered by oldsoftee2001 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Consider your decision very carefully before saying a word as you don't want to hurt her anymore than you have to. If you are 100% sure that there is nothing left in your marriage worth saving then you will just have to be completely honest with her. Think back to when you were 1st together surely you were friends that could speak about anything and probably even discussed that you would rather always know the truth about how you stand in your relationship instead of living a lie. Lies only make things 10 times worse! Respect her, shes a person not just a problem she'll thank you for it........Eventually!
2006-06-07 05:14:33 · answer #2 · answered by gp200dawn 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There must have been a reason why you went back to her again and realized that it just couldn't work out.
Many times our emotions at the time take over when they are mixed emotion and hurt emotions. If you plan to leave her make sure it's because you don't want to be with her and not for the other women. Make sure you give yourself alone time to find yourself before you move on with anyone else. If you feel that you love your wife then love for a marriage council or church.
Good luck
2006-06-07 05:12:45 · answer #3 · answered by deelitefuldreams 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Think very carefully what you really want this time before you do it. Don't make a move until you're completely sure. Then don't look back, because what you have done has probably hurt your wife enough already. If you really have decided that you want to leave, then sit her down and tell her in the nicest possible way that you don't think the relationship isn't going to work, but make sure that she realises you won't be back again this time. Then stick to that. Hope you find happiness.
2006-06-07 04:59:02 · answer #4 · answered by janey 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I had a family member who went through the same thing. He took back his wife and then couldn't do it anymore. People don't understand what your feeling. No one can tell you what to do. But don't prolong it. It's not fair to her or even you. Some people do really want it to work but it doesn't all the time. Do the right thing and let her go or you will grow to hate each other and there is enough hate in this world already. But if you feel it can be fixed then fix it.
2006-06-07 05:17:16 · answer #5 · answered by jonesi0 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stop messing your poor wife about if you don't love her then go and let the poor soul find someone who will give her the love she needs, don't use your children as an excuse for returning ,you coming and going is going to damage them even more than if your not there ,so make up your mind either you love your wife or you don't if you don't then get out now and give her a chance to find someone who will
2006-06-07 09:23:39 · answer #6 · answered by okayalder62 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are in need of professional counselling. You can't play with your wife's feelings like that - if you trully don't love her then move on and set her free so that she will get the love she deserves from someone who can meet her needs. The same applies to you - you are looking for something that your wife cannot give you yet you run back to her like she is your safety net. Stop it now and get a life that will make you happy. Life is too short to treat it in this manner.
2006-06-07 05:02:22 · answer #7 · answered by Sasha 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Make up your mind make your relationship with your wife work and get some councelling do it for you your wife and kids. Stop playing with peoples lives your being cruel going back in the first place if you dont want to be there.
If you make it work with your wife get rid of this other woman for good and no contact at all you cant do this to people and if your relationship with your wife needs work then do it and grow up.
2006-06-08 03:39:16 · answer #8 · answered by dizzymooo 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't let the door hit you where the good lord split you!
Go play in oncoming traffic, please.
You are just using your wife as a safety net and you are very lucky that she let you back to begin with!
Do you take your vows seriously for better or worse?
Why do people get married only to cheat?
You should have stayed single and not screwed up your marriage and your children's life you selfish bastard.
2006-06-07 18:12:35 · answer #9 · answered by o_O 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
1. Get professional help.
2. Rent the movie "Skin Deep" with John Ritter - funny, but very true to the situation you're in right now (learning how to keep it in one's pants).
3. Divorce your wife and let her get on with her life once and for all. Do NOT go groveling back to that poor woman, making her life a living hell just because you can't get your head out of your ***.
2006-06-07 05:00:41 · answer #10 · answered by Brutally Honest 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Call Home Depot and replace your front door with a revolving door. You should also consider placing a steam catapult in your drive way so your wife can give you a proper send off the next time you leave.
2006-06-07 04:57:51 · answer #11 · answered by conofa_jihad 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋