ok , i have been with my man for 5 1/2 years. Usually things work out well for us , But latley Things have been going down Hill real fast. Like i asked him for a month if he would go with me to my grandpas Grave, so i could leave flowers , but the day would come an he would always say oh were going to my parents house today , so I can do things that I need to do. I fought him for a while, but i'm done now. I cant sit here an say i'm perfect , cause i'm not. I Know i'm not. An now Sex is becomming a problem, He gets off and i'm left out in the cold. I'm expected to be Turned on when ever he is. I could really ramble on for days about this kinda stuff. But when i really think about it , I LOVE him so much, despite all this crappy stuff. help me!!!!
2006-06-07 04:50:40 · 10 answers · asked by lilredhead 6 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Just from the few examples you've given, it's my opinion your fiancee is more than a little self centered and selfish. Personally, if you're seeing this kind of attitude from him now then you can expect this to only get worse after you're married. I think you have to ask yourself if despite your love for him can you see yourself in a long term relationship where your husband is more interested in his own happiness than in yours.
2006-06-07 04:56:49 · answer #1 · answered by fun_guy_otown 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm in the same boat, it's like we are already married, huh? I have been thinking about counceling, maybe this is an option? I want to take care of it before we get married or have kids, to see if it can be fixed! Other than that maybe just talk to him! Good luck and congratulations on the wedding!
2006-06-07 04:55:22 · answer #2 · answered by Jaylyn 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Loving him alone is not enough. If he doesn't take your feelings into consideration then you will become very resentful over time. You must fix this before you marry. You deserve to be happy too. He needs to understand that the world doesn't revolve around his needs only. He is being selfish and he needs to change that.
2006-06-07 04:54:17 · answer #3 · answered by JustMe 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In my honest opinion,it's over. You need to move on now, before you ever get married. If he is like this now, it's going to get worse after the wedding. You don't believe me I'm sure, but you had better trust me on this. Call it quits now, and save yourself an ocean of tears later. Good Luck!
2006-06-07 04:59:26 · answer #4 · answered by olderbutwiser 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try loving yourself a bit and deciding that life is too short to put up with that kind of behaviour for the rest of your life.
Don't marry this man!
2006-06-07 04:56:24 · answer #5 · answered by kurtrisser 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
talk to him more tell him how you feel tell him your feeling toward him tell him that you love him more than often as long as you guys are together and you love each other there will always be something there between both of yous.
2006-06-07 04:54:28 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
GIRL, YOU NEED TO GET OUT! HE ISINT KEEPING YOUR FEELINGS IN CONSIDERATION ,DO YOU THINK THAT WILL CHANGE AFTER YOU MARRY HIM? ITS HIGHLY DOUBTFUL,I KNOW YOU LOVE HIM BUT SOMETIMES THE PEOPLE WE LOVE HURT US AND YOU CANT CHANGE ANYTHING EXCEPT THINGS YOU DO AND ACCEPT.
2006-06-07 04:58:14 · answer #7 · answered by stella a 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i hear ya, i still go thru that crap and i have been married for 11yrs. either live with it , both of you change it, or get out
2006-06-07 04:54:31 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
HE AND YOU ARE NOT READY TO GET MARRIED YET IT SOUNDS LIKE TO ME , HOW OLD ARE YOU GUYS?
2006-06-07 04:55:58 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
counseling
2006-06-07 04:55:03 · answer #10 · answered by Jay B 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋