My baby was stillborn at 20 weeks?

Question

due to cord accident, the cord being wrapped around her neck 3 times, the ultrasound measured her to have passed away at 18.6 weeks. When they induced me and I had her she weighed less than 1 lb but she was 10 1/2 inches long? is that normal? I mean to be that long at only 18.6 weeks and could that have been one of the reasons she tangled herself in the cord becuase she was so long?

Answer 1

oh honey .... soo very sorry to hear about your loss. what a terrible thing to have to go thru. i think that measuring 10 inches long at 18 or 20 weeks gestation is normal. i know you may be searching for an answer - want to know why did this happen. sometimes there are no answers ... things happen and we often don't know why ... thinking of you, my dear.

Answer 2

I am so sorry to hear about your loss!!!!! I've had several losses, but they usually occured in the first trimester - it's so devistating no matter when you lose your baby though. 10 1/2 inches is probably pretty normal for 18 weeks - the other children I have were at least 22 inches when they were born - so it doesn't seem that odd to me that she was that long. I don't think that her length had anything to do with the cord accident - it does happen pretty frequently. There wasn't anything you could have done differently and things sometimes just happen. I hope that you have a network of family and friends that you can rely on to help you get through this. I will be praying for you and your family.

Answer 3

Hi again momie 2 be! First let me say again that I'm sorry, and although I can't and won't say that I know how you feel, I can say that I went through something similar, as we talked about before, and can say that when ever something like this happens, we have to find a reason why. It's human nature to ask why. Sometimes there isn't an answer that is readily available, sometimes there isn't an answer at all. All we can do is go on and know that it will get better and the pain will start to go away. It never totally goes away, but with support, love, and someone to listen to you when you are upset and need to talk, it will get better.

The length sounds fine. Every baby is different and some grow in length before they put on fat, some grow really fast, some grow slow. Part of it is genetics, some is the uterine invironment- good or bad can effect growth. I wouldn't think this would be the cause, but I don't know. It's possible that no one knows why, that it just happened.

Let me know how things are going!! If you need to talk, feel free to contact me. I'm here and I'm more then willing to listen. Good luck!!

Answer 4

I feel your pain because I had a similar experience. Yes, this is normal and unfortunate. Nature has a way of caring for things when they go wrong. it sounds cruel but I am a nurse and I care for many children who have disabilities and some are very harsh. A cord being wrapped could have caused many psychological, mental and physical abnormalities and there is no way to tell since there is no ultrasound done on a daily basis. Your baby was able to go to be with God in heaven and eternal happiness and someday you will see her again...until then she will watch you from there. Maybe God will give her another chance for life on Earth...in a future child or another woman's child. I had a baby sister named Evelyn and she died at 6 months old from a car accident when my mother was hit and she was not in a car seat..this was in 1963. When I was 25, I was in Texas and people would call me Evey. I asked someone why and they said...the boss had a daughter named Evelyn who looked just like me (and she was 2 years younger than me too). I found out this is why the boss hired me...her daughter moved to California when she married a military person. I saw a photo and I swear she had to be my sister. I believe this but it is just me. You will have to find your own comfort.

Answer 5

First, let me say I'm terribly sorry for your loss! It has to be a painful thing to bring up and in a way, I applaud you for wanting to understand it. While I'm not a doctor, the only thing I can think of that would cause a child to look like that even in an underdeveloped state is the fact that the wrapping of the umbilical around the body stretched it's frame out and once it died, it bgan to calcify in that position. It may or may not be normal, but because babies' bones are flexible to a delicate extent, that configuration you spoke of may be the way the fetus ended up after death. Her overall length at that minute size may have been a factor, but there are so many medical reasons for a woman to miscarry, it would be tough for someone as unlearned as I to properly ascertain. But I hope I offered some explanation that may have helped and wish you well in future parental endeavours!

Answer 6

First of all, let me tell you I feel for you and your family. A loss is always unexpected, epecially one like this.

But checking my pregnancy calendar, at Lunar Month 6, 20 wks LMP (18 wks gestation)

Baby weighs 10.58 ounces or 300 grams. Baby is 6.46 inches or 16.4 cm long.

So the weight seems about right, but the length seems to be a little off. If we round up, that is a difference of about 3 inches. That's quite a big difference than the AVERAGE baby. All babies develop at different rates. My husband is 6 foot 4, I am 5 foot 10, and our child was born about 3 weeks early. She came out 20 inches long -- 6 lbs, 11 oz, That is normally regular sized -- but again she was 3 weeks early.

I would allow give/take of about 1 inch, but that still doesn't account for two inches. Are you exceptionally tall yourself, or perhaps your spouse/boyfriend?

I would also ask for the pathology results. After all, you are entitled to them.

Once again, you will be in my thoughts and prayers!

Answer 7

Well babies are nearly attanded full legth bu the time they have reached 20 weeks and after that they go into developmental stage which is the organs start to develop and other secondary changes happen leading to weight increase and some more length gain, however getting entangled has nothing to do with the length of the baby, it is a problem in the development of the cord...
Anyways sorry to hear you had a still born baby....

Answer 8

wow, that's amazing. I've never heard of that before, but wow. Your baby is truly a miracle. And boy, will she be tall. I am tall too, but I was about 8 pounds when I was born, and I was born on time, so I'm not really sure. But the best thing to do is to talk to your doctor. No one can explain it better. Also, make sure you have a good doctor, that doesn't just assign perscriptions at whatever you say, and just does that so you can leave. Get a good one, that understands what you are saying, and understands your problems. Good Luck and congrats! Also, Don't listen to the others that say, Don't blame yourself, no it's not normal, cuz amazing things happen. and how would they know, they've never been throught what you have been through!

Answer 9

I am so sorry ,but no this is the right length at this stage in pregnancy they start to put on body fat later on,you must not blame anything for this as it is done now and nothing can change it,it is unlikely to happen again.Does orangetown girl know what she is talkig about dont they read the question properly before answering

Answer 10

OMG im so sorry for your loss. But thats a normal size, are you or your husband either one tall. I really dont think it could be the reason for the cord insident, have you ask your Dr these questions.