he was a friend for 8 months and came to visit me. we made love but after he left i found out the next woman on his trip was accually one he addmitted to haveing a "crush on" I feel used and disrespected.
2006-06-07 04:18:02 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Hell no!!! You were used, I'm sorry to say. That does not mean that you are not a good person or are unworthy to love and be loved. Some men are slime and give the rest of us a bad name. You may want to ask yourself a question. Do you equate sex to equal love? Make sure that all lines are open to communication, and above all go with your gut feeling. Good luck.
2006-06-07 04:33:49 · answer #1 · answered by lifeisgood 4 · 3⤊ 2⤋
If you weren't forced into sex then you weren't used. You just made a bad decision.
He can't decide who he likes best. If you give him sex and the other girl won't then maybe you'll be his favorite.
Did he meet you and the other women on his trip online? If so he has a game going where he sets up a sexual vacation once a year to visit the suckers he's caught online. Don't be in such a hurry to give it up next time.
2006-06-07 11:28:22 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You were used and disrespected. And he's not an awesome friend, by any means. Did he make love to you and then go immediately to her? Did he hurt you intentionally, or were the circumstances just strange? Anyway, it's always hard to be friends with a 'friend' after you sleep with him (I've been there). So if it will be painful to see him with/interested in other women, maybe you'll need to take a break from him.
2006-06-07 11:21:46 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You new the man for 8 months. you should have known better to have sex with him if you were friends just friends. other wise it is called f*** buddies. Yes you were used but you helped him use you. That is not what true friends do. you will have to make the choice of if you want to talk to the man or see him again, If it were me I believe I would pass on by I don't need that kind of friends. Good Luck with which ever you decide on. But true friends respect one another not use one another.
2006-06-07 11:26:19 · answer #4 · answered by liza 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I honetsly think that he used you. Clearly he is not a friend, if he really cared about you and wanted to be romantically involved with you he would have made that suggestion to you. At least by now!!
He just wanted to be sexually satisfied.
Don't feel bad for yourself >> Men do this all the time.
I think you should tell him how you feel, hear what he has to say and move accordingly!!!
Learn form this experience1
2006-06-07 11:33:24 · answer #5 · answered by peaks 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's not like you didn't get anything out of the deal. A mutual using can go a long way.
2006-06-07 11:24:15 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
As the old saying goes it takes two to tango.Did he force you into having sex?If not then you went into the role of just having sex.
2006-06-07 11:26:37 · answer #7 · answered by sherell212004 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you have to face your self , wanted to do that with him too so you can't blame him for doing any thing , so you are part of what happens & even you encourage him to do so by leting him visit you at home while being alone
so what happened was your choice even more than his
2006-06-07 11:26:46 · answer #8 · answered by biscotta 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nvr
2006-06-07 13:25:39 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He probably used you. I would tell him to get lost because he just going to continue to use you until you relize what he is doing
2006-06-07 11:21:17 · answer #10 · answered by Kassie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋