how do i tell my mom i am pregnant?

Question

i am only 16, and she doesn't know i've ever had sex...so how do i tell her she's going to be a grandmother soon? they're really religiously strict...

Answer 1

just tell her and do it now the longer you wait the worse it will be and you cannot hide it for very long just tell her sure she will be mad for a while but she will get over it i promise

Answer 2

Why do kids have sex at 16?????? O my god!!! Ok kiddo. You played, now you paying. I'm sure your momma told you to wait until you were married to have sex. This is why, so two matture adults could do the raising of the child when you get pregnant. There is no IF you get pregnant. You will now find out what it is like, and if the sex was even worth it. Honey, it's not worth it. I'm sure the plessure was ALL his. What would you do if this was your daughter telling you that she was pregnant at 16? Think about the best way to approach her. Does the father of the baby know? How old is he? was he ready to pay the price of playing with something that was meant for adults, ready to deal with the results of sex?
Just tell her that you have made a terrible mistake. And that she is the only one you can turn to. First reinforce that she has always been there for you, and helped you when you needed her. Then tell her that you made a stupid choice without talking to her first, then tell her you need her help, and that your scared. I'm sure she'll ahve a clue by then what it's all about. Good luck!!

Just show her this page of questions and answers! That'll do it.

Answer 3

This is a tough one but I suggest these tactics...
#1-Do not try to hide it. Doing this will only create more resentment towards the situation, distrust and displeasure from your parents in the end...On the flip side, sometimes parents values (religious or otherwise) change in extreme situations so they may try to demand you to terminate the pregnancy. This may be an option you are considering yourself so if it is, then you will have the support of your parents to go through that experience with and it will be safer for you. HOWEVER, if you do not want to terminate and they decide to try to force you that is a NEW can of worms!
#2-Hiding it will jeporadize you and your unborn baby b/c instead of hiding it, you should be obtaining good prenatal care during the pregnancy.
#3-If you are grown-up enough to have sex, you are grown up enough to go to your parents like an adult and sit them down and talk to them openly and honestly...This is not said to be mean, but seriously, you are about to be someone's MOTHER, you have to start stepping up to the plate from now.
#4-Honesty really is the best policy. You will feel better in the end and even if they hound you the entire 9 months, nothing melts stony hearts like a beautiful newborn baby.
P.S. Like in #3, remember when you have a new baby it is BIG ADULT responsibility. You have to be strong and determined and not dependent on your parents for everything. Set goals for yourself...be determined to complete high school AND go to college, even if only community school. Save your money. Good luck!

Answer 4

Well most tenns will regret getting pregnant. This was a mistake. You should have waited until you were married, but it's too late now. You have to tell your mom. There will be anger, but there is nothing that she could change now. Your boyfriend might not be there, but parents are going to be there for you no matter what, and they will be there for you forever! Throught the hard times and the bad, so you have to tell your parents straight up. Sorry if this didn't help, but ya gotta do what ya gotta do, and this is one of those things. The easiest way to tell her is just have a woman-to-woman talk with her and tell her straight up.

Answer 5

I suggest the you talk with your mom, if you need a friend to go along with you ask someone from your school or church to help you...and adult that you trust.

You should tell her soon so that you can plan your actions, there is a lot of work to being a parent and a young parent at that. Just be prepared for whatever, some crying, shouting, disappointment.

It is never easy to tell this news and remember this is not easy news to receive!!!

Answer 6

The best thing that you can do is tell your parents as soon as possible. You need to let them know right away that you are pregnant. Also, you need to make sure that your parents put aside their religious beliefs and put their concerns on you and your baby. That is what is important. Let them know that you have been sexually active. Really all you need to do is to just be honest with them. They will respect and understand you more if you just express your feelings the way that you should.

Answer 7

There's no easy way to do it, but the sooner the better. You might need to have someone with you for moral support, like an Aunt or another trusted friend or adult. I'm sure they'll be shocked and angry but you need their support and advice and when they get over the initial shock, they could be a real comfort for you. I'm hoping that if they are "religious" they will understand the importance of love and acceptance, and the need for grace and forgiveness. I wish you and your baby all the best.

Answer 8

I am also a young mother and I know what your going threw. I became pregnate with my 1st son at 17. I know that its hard to your parents that was the hardes thing for me but I suggest that you tell them as soon as possible Just becaus as a pregnat woman you cant have the stress on you back any more. Remember that you have to take care of the two you you now so look out for that baby and tell your parents.

Answer 9

I know how difficult this situation is for you. The best thing to do is to sit your mom down and ask her to be calm, then tell her. Maybe you and your boyfriend can talk to your mom together. Make sure that you have some plan about what you want to do regarding whether you're going to keep the baby or give it up for adoption. You also want to make sure you get prenatal care. It's extremely important for you and the baby.

Answer 10

Are you keeping the baby? If so, sit down and have a heart to heart conversation - If you need support, bring a trusty adult to be a mediator..

Moms are amazing.. they may not always agree with what you do, but they will always support you.. It will hurt your mom more if you wait longer to tell her -- then she will feel like you can't talk to her... And no matter what, after she holds that baby in her arms, she will be so much in love with that baby, you will both forget how upset she was when you told her... I promise, from personal experience, it will be difficult at first, and she may be really upset, but it will blow over, and she is going to love her grandchild like she has never loved before.

Answer 11

You need to just sit down and tell her, face-to-face. She will probably be mad, but she will get over it and become excited. Since they are religious, they will probably want you to keep the baby. Remember not to get angry and say things you will regret. Also, be sure to apologize. There are many things you and your mom will have to discuss, like insurance and prenatal care. This is very important. You need to tell her asap, like right now or tonight. You know this isn't going to go away, and the longer you wait, the harder it get, trust me. Good Luck!!