My husband and I rented a 2,600 sq. ft. 4 bedroom home with one of his friends who had a teenage son. It was only for 6 months. The friend moved out begaining of May into his girlfriends condo, and left his 14 year old son behind. He said he was old enough to watch himself. Two weeks before he moved out he went on vacation to Mexico, and left his son with us then as well. He was late with his rent, and bills. He only left his son $20.00 for the whole time he was away. Plus his son would leave the house and not tell us where he was going or doing. One day a parent of one of his friends brought him home because he was caught shooting nails at other peoples homes. We told his father and he didn't do anything about it. It was like he just dumped his kid off on us. Now we have moved out too this last weekend. We got all our stuff out. Plus we cleaned the whole house with no help from him or his son. Now he wants my husband to help him load up the rest of the crap he has sitting in the...
2006-06-07 03:53:57 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
garage. It's about 30 minutes to an hour out of our way. I feel like we have helped this man enough. I feel he should deal with his crap himself. My family say just help him this last time, and that it's no big deal. I'm sick of doing his work for him.
2006-06-07 03:56:41 · update #1
I do not feel as thought you are wrong in this situation. This person's son is his responsibility, not yours. As well as his belongings are his responsibility also. Fourteen is not old enough to be left alone for two weeks, and you were not being paid to babysit. Obviously there are some underlying problems with the father and son, and it is not up to you to take care of them. Tell the father if he does want to have to pay for a moving company, which you will call, then you suggest he comes and removes his son's belongings. It may cost a friendship for your husband, but a real friend does not take advantage of you like that.
2006-06-07 04:03:14 · answer #1 · answered by mackscott7 1 · 7⤊ 1⤋
Do not help him. This kid is 14 he is not able to take care of himself. His dad seems to be very selfish. Were is this kids mother or grandparents? I think the 14 year old needs discipline and needs to be taken off his father. As for helping him move noway...He should have been a more responsible adult with his end of the deal and he wasn't. I would try and help this child out by getting him into a stable environment but I wouldn't help the dad out at all. He made his bed let him lye in it.
2006-06-07 04:03:16 · answer #2 · answered by patty 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
good how might want to he be education you a lesson, if he did now not do not forget that type into you on the starting up? he's making an attempt to cheat with assistance from using truth if he's making an attempt to dam you what's there to hide? and also you're his lady chum so that you're considered a pal to him and that is his way of attempting to go back up with a stupid reason. i imagine of you want to flow on and also, did you look into his website or some thing like that? i do now not comprehend how facebook works so i'm now not waiting to flow off from plenty. yet you deserve extra effectual.
2016-11-14 07:53:19 · answer #3 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell the man that you have already helped him with his son and that is what you guys didnt bargin for. Tell him that when his child was in trouble they had to deal with the mess that he was suppose to deal with. He could move the stuff himself and let his son help. You are not wrong for doing this, cause he is only taking advantage of your kindness, and it seems that he went a little to far.
2006-06-07 04:01:13 · answer #4 · answered by baby_luv 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, you're not wrong. Good for you.
Now either call the boys parents or Child Protective Services. A 14 year old is not old enough to fend for himself.
2006-06-07 03:58:39 · answer #5 · answered by deb 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Bill him for the money you spent supporting his kid. Report his miserable a** to child welfare. File a judgement against him at the local courthouse for the money he owes you. And do NOT help him move another thing. If he leaves his stuff, let the landlord sell it, or, take it yourself and sell it if it threatens the return of your security deposit.
2006-06-07 04:09:39 · answer #6 · answered by Quietman40 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
CALL CHILD PROTECTIVE SERVICES ON HIS BUTT! I FEEL REALLY BAD FOR THE BOY; NO WONDER HE'S GOTTEN IN TROUBLE. HE DOESN'T HAVE A FATHER OR A MOTHER REALLY. WHAT YOU SHOULD DO IS REPORT ON THAT MAN AND DON'T TAKE HIS STUFF FROM THE GARAGE. GET THE LAW INVOLVED. DON'T LET ANYONE ELSE COME AND STAY WITH YOU.
2006-06-07 04:42:20 · answer #7 · answered by ♥Lily♥ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
CALL CHILD PROTECTIVE SERVICES. Just like the first answer recc'd.
Who cares about the past. Who cares about friendship.
This "father" has abandoned his son. He's a worthless piece of sh.. CALL NOW.
2006-06-07 04:07:16 · answer #8 · answered by William 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are not wrong. He is a taker and he has taken enough. Tell him he is on his own, and that you have done the last thing for him. Good luck to you.
2006-06-07 06:28:43 · answer #9 · answered by doglady 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Walk away. Call child protective services and don't look back. You've done your fair share.
2006-06-07 03:58:35 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋