I just found out last week that I am 6 weeks pregnant. I have 14 year old twins from my first marriage. I was re-married 2 years ago to a great guy that treats them good. They just had their 8th grade graduation last Thursday and will be starting HS in the fall.
We were thinking of telling the rest of our families on Father's day, but when should I tell my kids? What is the best way to handle telling them? They have NO idea.
2006-06-07 03:50:01 · 25 answers · asked by jachooz 6 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
I would say that u should prolly tell ur kids 1st, make them feel like an important part of whats happening and then maybe allow them to be the ones to tell the rest of the family on fathers day,kids are pretty creative,maybe they could come up with a unique way of sharing the news. :)
2006-06-07 03:59:20 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 1⤋
The sooner the better. No one likes to find out that you've been withholding information from them, especially something this important. You should definitely tell them before telling your extended family. This will be their baby, too, and they deserve to be told first.
How you present the information will be important in determining how they respond. Don't make it too serious. This is happy news. Show the same excitement you would if you were getting a new car, or were going on a family vacation, or had won the lottery even.
Then, when you decide to tell everyone else, you should present it as "Our family has some wonderful news." You might even offer to let the twins announce it. It is a subtle way of including them in the process, instead of alienating them.
Congratulations to you all! Best wishes for you and the new baby!
2006-06-07 11:16:58 · answer #2 · answered by Sunny Lady 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What I did with my two kids, we had a meeting and I went to the website and wrote "pictures at 6 weeks pregnant" - - - I went to this specific site where they showed the baby at six weeks... I first had the talk about the fact that no matter what, I will always love them the same and that nobody will ever change that... Once that was said, I told them that they are expecting a new brother and/or sister. Then immediately, I showed them what the baby looks like at this stage. That kind of will make them feel emotional... The main thing is to make sure that they are always involved and for you not to exclude them. If you do that, they will feel left out and take them with you when you are scheduled to your ultrasound, let them hear the heart beat., make them feel like they are part of your pregnancy...
2006-06-08 14:54:54 · answer #3 · answered by Snowwhite 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My boys are 12 and 10. We waited till I was past the "safe" mark which was 13 weeks. We told a few other family members but asked them not to say anything to the kids until we had reached the safe point. When we did tell our kids they weren't very excited about it. The oldest was more concerned about invasion of his space, but as the day progressed, they started thinking of names and asking questions. They got really happy really quick. Now I am 23 weeks and they are still excited asking even more questions. Even if they aren't excited at first, don't get discouraged. They'll come around. Congratulations!!!
2006-06-07 11:01:40 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell them before you make the big announcement to the rest of the family. You could say something like, we want you to know first since you will be a very important part of the baby life.
2006-06-07 10:55:51 · answer #5 · answered by Granny 1 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sit them down just the three of you first (so they won't feel intimidated by their step father) just to see what they think about it. Let them know that you are happy and you are pregnant. Don't apologize for being pregnant. They may or may not accept it right away but in the end everything will be ok.. I personally think that they will be thrilled when it all boils down to it. Having a little bro or sis.
2006-06-07 10:55:40 · answer #6 · answered by i have a taste for waffles 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If they are 14 they should understand very well. Besides I bet they have some idea. Just sit with them and your hubby and tell them your pregnant. Tell them before you tell anyone else in your family. Just come clean and Im sure they'll be happy for you theyre teenagers so you dont have to worry about jealousy.
2006-06-07 10:57:17 · answer #7 · answered by Maw730 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
They are old enough to understand so tell them as soon as possible, they should take it just fine. If anything they are big enough to start helping you out and make it a little easier on you while you are pregnant.
2006-06-07 11:03:20 · answer #8 · answered by greeneyedprincess 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Believe me, my kids have heard and know all about sex, babies etc etc. Your kids are no different, I assure you. If you want to keep the pregnancy a surprise to the rest of your family until Father's day, then by all means keep it from the kids until then as well. They will blab like Oprah if not! lol
2006-06-07 10:55:50 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You tell your kids first. Ask them how they feel. Then the rest of the family.
2006-06-07 11:09:27 · answer #10 · answered by crevels23 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋