What Should I Do With My (ex???) Girlfriend? DON'T ANSWER IF YOU'RE UNDER 25!?

Question

I've known this girl from Brazil for one month. She moved in as a temporary roomate; we got along really well and eventually became intimate.

She told me last Thursday that the only reason that I'm letting her stay with me is to have sex with her. That REALLY insulted me. I'm not a pimp leasing half of my bed for sex, and I wouldn't go out with a s that would take me up on the offer.

Depressed, I came home really drunk the next day. She was upset that I passed out and didn't answer her phone call. We talked during dinner. About six hours later, she crawled out of bed in the middle of the night and slept on the couch.

After a day of her being silent, the only thing she said is "you stunk (she mumbled something in Portugese) and will not change."

She's barely has talked to me in the last four days. The lack of communication has me really upset. At least she should tell me that I'm an asshole and why. What should I do? I don't know if she 's even looking for another place.

Answer 1

Let her go, move on and be glad you didn't waste a lot of time on this...she she doesn't sound as if she knows what she really wants....did she want to be intimate, or was she doing it out of appreciation for giving her a place to stay?...being that she's the one who brought that up, where did that idea spring from?!
As a girl, sneaking out of bed in the middle of the night to sleep on the couch means she's upset and wants you to notice and feel sorry for her and follow her to offer comfort...it's part of the game.
Let her go and find someone who will communicate openly and honestly and not play games.

Answer 2

You two need a serious talk. If you are really interested in a relationship, then perhaps you should set up different sleeping arrangements and start "courting" her. Let her know that you value her for more than sex and that you're interested in starting over from scratch if that's what it takes to convince her you are not using her. You need to get flowers and/or a small gift, apologize for getting drunk and explain that it was a bad choice in dealing with your hurt feelings and that you realize it was a silly thing to do. Let her know that you understand her position and that you want to formally ask her out on a date and take her someplace nice, but not formal-- just like you would on a first date with a friend. Start doing things together and stop sleeping together until she tells you she's ready and be sure and tell her this is what you're doing... waiting until she's ready.

Answer 3

She probably thinks she is being used for sex because you only met for a month and rushed into bed. Plus its awkward to have a guy ask you to move in with them soooooooo fast. I have almost the same situation and I question if I am not his sex toy sometimes, but I don't think I have the guts to ask him. I think what we have now is an understanding and we did grow closer. But the question will never go away. If she decides to leave you take your time in your next relationship and don't move so fast. Like guys some women get scared (overwhelmed) with sudden commitment in a small amount of time. Then when you snapped at her she probably saw another side of you she wish she never saw. Getting to know someone takes time.

Answer 4

Get rid of her. She seems like she wants to be the center of attention and loves the drama. She obviously doesn't have any respect for you, or herself if she is staying there and she thinks its only because you only want to have sex with her. Tell her to get over herself. If she won't talk to you, then right her a letter. Don't continue to let her walk all over you. It is your house and you deserve to be respected and not to be treated like you are some kind of heartless person.
This would make for a good episode on The Real World. You might want to move your question out of the TV category.

Answer 5

STOP being a punk and be mad at her. She insulted you!!!! And fine you didn't handle it well, but stop tip toeing around this girl and call her out on her
s h i t . It takes two to tango and it wasn't right that she turned the sex around on you as if you were some slave master. As if you keep her tied up and when you get home she better put out!! look I think you should get rid of her. If she cared about you then she would never think anything like that in the first place!!!

Answer 6

OK I am way over 25 years of age but really you only knew her for a month??? that is way too soon to let some one move in...

if you have real feelings for her & want it to work then your both need to communicate that is the key to relationships sex & everything else follows..............
if she cannot do this then she is not the one for you move on dude you sound like you can get an other girlfriend

Answer 7

the proper suggestion is circulate ON! If she likes somebody else then there's no longer something you're able to do to alter her innovations. it particularly is purely reality, somebody else won her heart and now you're in the previous. Sorry it particularly is basically reality

Answer 8

Kick the *****. By the way, I'm only 17. HA! This also has nothing to do with television, go complain to the people scouting out the relationships section.

Answer 9

NEVER sleep with a roomate or you'll get yourself in a situation like this! Start looking for a new roomate and ask her to please move out! She sounds like a mental mary!

Answer 10

This one has issues. Tell her to FIND another patsy to leech off of. And don't touch her again, if that is her attitude. Do not let yourself be manipulated anymore. For that is exactly what she is doing.