My best friend is in the process of breaking up with her long-term boyfriend. She's very depressed and she goes into hysterical mode every time a love song is put on. Any suggestions on what words or actions i can do to make her feel better?
2006-06-07 03:12:45 · 39 answers · asked by someone u wont know 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
be there for her. keep her busy, go to the mall, to the movies. that way she wont think about it.
2006-06-07 03:16:07 · answer #1 · answered by BeAuTiFuL 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My friend went through the same thing. She didn't get hysterical when a song came on or anything. She just needed a good cry and someone to talk to. Just offer her your friendship and if she needs to just cry that you'll cry with her. The best thing I know that can be fun and comforting is getting ice cream and eating your sorrows away. It can be fun and it's a good time to talk.
Telling her she'll find someone or she deserves better is cliche. It gets old. We all know that. Just tell her you're sorry and ASK her if there's anything you can do. Some people will tell you what they need.
2006-06-07 03:18:25 · answer #2 · answered by meghanw1 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I just went through a break up. Keep her away from the guy/his friends/anything that reminds her of him. Stay busy and keep happy songs on. Worked for me, it takes time, don't try to rush her through this. I took a long time. But I feel better. Be there for her. Sometimes she needs to vent, and sometimes she needs to keep him off her mind. It depends on the day. Just never leave her and when she needs you drop WHATEVER you are doing and help her. Pray okay? Hope I helped.
2006-06-19 17:45:54 · answer #3 · answered by k m 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First things first. Sit her down tell her that he does not want her and does not care about her and no matter how much it hurts it's time to move on because he is not her sole mate and there is someone out there waiting for her that will give her more love then he did. But the only way to get this new guy is to go out forget about the ex. He is not crying about you so you shouldn't cry about him. Go out and have fun and enjoy yourself and don't think of him. Let your hair down and you will see that there is alot more to your life than him. You deserve better.
2006-06-19 08:57:30 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Break ups are never easy to deal with but tell her that if there's a break up is because the guy never appreciated her and that he is not worth it. Tell her that to move on because for all that you know he's having fun with his friends and he's going out to parties. Tell her that she shouldn't be dramatic and cry everytime there's a love song on the radio. Ask her if she wants to spend sometime at your house like on the weekend or go out to the movies. You'll be surprise of the things there are in this world. I commend you for being a friend. LIFE GOES ON THE, SUN IS STILL GOING TO SHINE TOMORROW. HOPE. :)
2006-06-18 10:21:07 · answer #5 · answered by Emily Isn't Lazy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When people are like this, the best thing you can do is be there for her. Trying to get people to do things when they're depressed is annoying(to them). When they need you, then they will tell you. You can, however, give them a little "Hope you feel better" card (or something like it)every now and then. In time, she will heal, or at least be able to cope.
Aria
*The illnovelist*
2006-06-20 04:36:42 · answer #6 · answered by illnovelist 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Keep her busy and live life. Do the things she never got to do when she was with him. If, she did fun things with him, try to remind her that this is about her, not her and him. Don't try to set her up with anyone until she says she's ready. Pretty soon that sadness will turn into hate, and being the best friend that you are, you will sit beside her and listen to her tell you for the 100th time what a ****** he is...
2006-06-07 04:52:31 · answer #7 · answered by missdkitty 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Being a best friend makes you special to began with that someone can look at you and say this.
*Its really another word for family* and at hard times all people can do doing someones hardship is listen.
Don't put down anyone!
If they ask for your opinion than give it not to upset but only to comfort.
2006-06-16 07:45:24 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If either of you have lesbian tendencies, you could pleasure her. Just kidding. lol Anyway, I would suggest keeping her busy with non-sexual activities. Don't try to distract her by getting her hooked up with somebody else. That will only make things worse because she will be dealing with a new guy before getting over the old one and probably treating him pretty crappy because she is still upset over the last guy.
2006-06-18 22:37:54 · answer #9 · answered by WebAnt 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Give her a copy of the book, "He's just not that into you: The no excuses truth to understanding guys" by Greg Behrendt and Liz Tuccillo. I haven't read it yet but I plan to. Greg says what we won't admit to ourselves. Ultimately it is an empowering book for anyone who has ever wondered why that guy/girl didn't call, why the relationship didn't work out, etc.
2006-06-07 03:19:44 · answer #10 · answered by bboytwogun 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just be with her to listen. Let her vent. Continue to do things with her she likes to do. Don't push her into another relationship until she is ready. Let her cry on your shoulder. Have fun together. Sooner or later she will see it is about leading her life and living for her self. Once she is satisfied with herself she can then be ready to share herself with another in her own time. Be a friend. Be there. Listen, do not tell her how you feel, but rather let her tell you how she feels. Its very subjective. I cannot know how another feels. I only know how I feel. So I listen .more .. and do not talk......much.
2006-06-16 07:47:32 · answer #11 · answered by transcelestialman 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋