Re: Husband who cheats. I will need to move out. I make $8.00hr?
he makes $27 an hour, he is a Corrections Officer. ( But he also has child support for kids from his previous marriage.) I cant afford an apartment, car, and to have to start all over. I feel as though I should take the furniture when I go, but why do I feel guilty about that? I really truly wont be able to afford much of anything.
And because he hides things and lies so much I cant say well, lets just put this behind us and work on our marriage.
but I feel guilty about taking anything from him at all, furniture or monetarily.
Am I nuts! or just going nuts?
2006-06-07 02:28:22 · 15 answers · asked by Hope 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
no ur not nuts..... ur a nice person.....thats it!!!!!!!
he cheats......take away as much as possible from him......
if u feel guilty having it.... give it to his kids or give it of to charity.....
he deserves paying u ....u know........
2006-06-07 02:33:00 · answer #1 · answered by coffeeanu 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not nuts just a crappy situation. Find a family member or a friend who you can move into for awhile while you get on your feet. If you look in the paper or there is a website called http://www.roommates.com/ You could put in preferences and find a roommate and you can split rent and utilities. People are looking for roomates everywhere. So if you guys split rent on something it won't be so expensive. You can always take the bus. Many bus lines have a monthly pass you pay and you get unlimited rides. Considering gas and insurance it would be a cheaper option.
Consider going to college as well. You can get a higher paying job that way.
Better to be a little on the poor side than have money and be miserable.
2006-06-07 02:51:08 · answer #2 · answered by butterflykisses427 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do you have any kids with him? If so, I would be able to see the dilemma. If you don't have kids...What the hell are you doing? Get out of there. Listen, he will always cheat, and I would be so worried he would bring home some kind of disease. There is no way I would stick around. Who cares if you'll only make $8 an hour. You will figure something out. Are your parents around? Any siblings, friends? It can all work out! If you really feel guilty then don't take the furniture, but make sure you take things you really need. Remember, you are entitled to half, and remember that he is the cheater!! Good luck!
2006-06-07 02:39:46 · answer #3 · answered by Mom of 2 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Before you do any moving you need to have some money put up
in an account. Establish your finances first. That way you will have something to fall back on. Never move out broke. Right now you just need to grit your teeth and stick it out. While you have this job you may want to find a job that pays more an hour. That way you can afford that the neccessities you need to live on your own. Always plan ahead. Always have an alternative plan if one doesn't work out. Start pricing efficientcies online in your area. They are not that expensive. That would be good for you until you are able to get a bigger apartment. We all must live within our budget.
2006-06-07 03:58:44 · answer #4 · answered by blessedonengod 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you are stressed, you need to work on that....or you will have a nervous breakdown. I think you should leave him if he cheats on you....maybe you can play your cards right and hang in there for a little while until you get your situation in order! You can get an apartment and get a roommate....things do work out! Good luck.....and dont feel guilty about taking anything from him please~~Look after yourself child.
2006-06-07 08:05:19 · answer #5 · answered by Londontown! 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he cheats on you and you want to pick your life back up, please do so! You are not nuts for feeling guilty, but you might wonder howcome you feel that guilt.
As you say, he has more money, more things to fall back on then you. From your question I get the feeling that in a way you feel responsible for him and also like you where in a situation where you are dependend from him. Don't give him all this power, take back the controlls of your own life! You are equal.
He has his share in this. He is responsible for the lying and cheating. he is not your child but a full grown man. He can take care of himself, even without the furniture. Please make shure to take care of yourself as well!
Good luck and strength to you.
2006-06-07 02:38:53 · answer #6 · answered by Bloed 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have a problem huston. It seems to me lke you still have love for this guy. Even if it's that deep down kinda love that you can barly tell is there. You care about him even though he teats you like scum. So you need a plan. I'm noit saying I can give you the lay- out for it but I will give you some advice. This guy is more than just bad news he's a newspaperr!!!You need to get rid of your burden and look up someone who can help you while your down . What ever you do nevver settle because every LADY is toooo good for that you deserve better and you and your couches and coffee tables need to get the hell up out of there
2006-06-07 02:37:43 · answer #7 · answered by curalisiouse 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can be poor and happy. And you wont make 8.00 an hour forever. Maybe this will help motivate you to seek more for yourself. Dont waste your life in an unhappy marriage. Take what is fair...no more no less. Good Luck. Be brave.
2006-06-07 02:34:20 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you need to establish some self esteem - they reason why you feel guilty is because you feel your not worth having these thing. Do you really think your cheating ex should get the better end of the stick? - c'mon .... that makes no sense.
2006-06-07 02:33:21 · answer #9 · answered by sa-da-tay 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You shouldn't feel bad about taking what belongs to you but if something actually belongs to him and not you like something he had before you where together or something his family gave to him you shouldn't take it no matter how much money he makes or you make.
2006-06-07 02:37:19 · answer #10 · answered by BB 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋