I have been with my boyfriend for a year now and we have a very active sex life but he still fails to make me reach orgasm during intercourse. I always enjoy sex between us but I need those fireworks. I am concerned that the problem lies with me as he ALWAYS makes me orgasm whilst masturbating me and knows exactly what I do and don´t like. HELP!!
2006-06-07 02:18:13 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Health ➔ Women's Health
I didn't have an orgasm through intercourse for about a year after I lost my virginity to my fiance. I was anxious and nervous and I saw it all as a really big deal which stopped me coming even though oral and masturbation made me come. When he asked me to marry him, it was like someone switched on a tap and I now orgasm every single time that we have intercourse.
You could try having your boyfriend stimulate you until you are almost at orgasm before stopping to have sex for a while, then continuing the manual stimulation etc until you orgasm whilst he is inside you. Different positions might work, try missionary with your legs up over his shoulders or a cushion under your bum, doggy style with him reaching round to stimulate your clitoris, you on top stimulating yourself or having him stimulate you.
Good luck!
2006-06-07 02:31:18 · answer #1 · answered by Fluorescent 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋
First off, relax because if its a problem and its on your mind then it won't happen.
Secondly keep the foreplay going but do NOT come. Keep backing off and starting again.
Lastly look at some techniques for hitting the G Spot, a good one being to put a pillow under your backside thereby making his angle of entry steeper towards the inner front of the vaginal wall where the sensitive G spot area is.
Alternatively go for simultaeneous clitoral stimulation by adopting the cat position whereby in the missionary position, your partner moves up your body slightly to that he enters you whilst simultaeneously stimulating the clitoris as he goes.
2006-06-07 09:45:30 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Many women never have a vaginal orgasm - there's some debate as to whether it actually exists. A clitoral orgasm is more usual.
If your boyfriend is not stimulating your clitoris then no amount of vaginal stimulation will make you orgasm.
You need to stop worrying about it though as worry and stress will stop you orgasming no matter how good the stimulation.
2006-06-07 10:29:39 · answer #3 · answered by Trish D 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
lots of women don't achieve orgasm through penetrative sex. the act of sex in itself is often not enough to bring a woman to climax. try slowly building the excitement up with long foreplay bringing your self close to orgasm with masturbation two or three times before actual penetration. also get your boy friend to stimulate the clitoris during sex as well (normally best while in the doggy position) to help slowly build up to the climax .
2006-06-07 09:34:03 · answer #4 · answered by sparks 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have you ever reached orgasm with other guys??? that's the question. If you have then yea...it's your BF. if you haven't then that's normal. A lot fo women don't have the big O. I'm one of them and I've been having sex for uh....several years.
2006-06-07 09:38:45 · answer #5 · answered by NYCchic 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I also havent ever had an orgasm when having sex, but he can make me *** when touching my clit. I sometimes fake one just so he feels good. I know its not good, but what he doesnt know wont hurt him!!! lol
anyway.... I know how you feel. I dont think orgasms for women actually exsist either! I have been with two men, and never had one!!!
2006-06-08 12:44:41 · answer #6 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dont blame either yourself or your boyfriend for this. He obviously knows his stuff if he can make you *** in other ways. When he is inside you try clenching your vaginal muscles as if you were trying to hold in a pee. You could also get him to go at different paces, Im sure you will find one pace that suits you more. Keep at it.. it will happen.. relax and enjoy and dont focus too much or it wont happen at all.
2006-06-07 12:19:26 · answer #7 · answered by Irishwan 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Take more time with foreplay and hold off the sex till you are nearly there get him to use his fingers to stimulate you as he enters you, and stop expecting it to happen. When you are worrying about it it stops your body from functioning and reacting to the stimulation. Relax, enjoy, experiment and trust each other.
Good Luck!!
2006-06-07 09:55:50 · answer #8 · answered by Andy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is evidently not using the right techniques or doing the things you need to arouse you. It is important for some women that the man spend alot of time touching, kissing and licking in all of the right places. Tell him what he needs to do to relax you and get you off.
2006-06-07 09:23:11 · answer #9 · answered by bad_bob_69 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well the position to try is 'CAT' if you search on the net you will find a full description of this position and the benifits - good luck
2006-06-08 08:38:59 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋