My best buddy is a man, but did cheat on his wife. She found out about it, and he decided to quit all together (which was good). But then she started cheating on him w/ a co-worker of hers. He found out and confronted her...she said she would stop and concentrate on the marriage. He then looked @ the phone records, and found out they were still communicating (maybe even seeing each other outside of the job). My friend then told her that they needed to seek counseling. They did, but now he thinks that their marriage is perfect now. I haven't told him my doubts about it, but I somehow feel like she is trying to make it seem like the marriage is back on track now, just until he is back in his comfort zone, and then she will start the cheating again. What do you guys think about it. I want to be positive for my friend, but know cheating relationship don't heal that quickly!
2006-06-07 02:16:45 · 8 answers · asked by Whonosbest 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
If they both want to change their behavior,they will..but it is an agonizing process.
My husband cheated 6 years ago..we went thru 3 years of counseling,.,he has become a better man because I could not accept who he had become.
He knew ,if he wanted to stay with me, he had to change..and he did. It wasn't one of those "something missing in the marriage" affairs..it was more like "Something missing in the man"..His affair was VERY short and very stupid.He is well aware of what he has lost,including his self respect
It sounds like they are both young and immature. An affair never really goes away and it destroys the fabric of a marriage. It takes HARD work to repair
If they both take it lightly, it probably WILL repeat.
2006-06-07 02:30:47 · answer #1 · answered by dmalfet 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
This is one of those times when you should just butt out. He's pleased with how well he is rebuilding his relationship. Don't ruin that with your unfounded suspicions. You don't have any evidence that she is continuing to be unfaithful, just some vague suspicion.
Remember, your friend cheated, too. So if "once a cheater, always a cheater" is true, it's true about your friend, too!
2006-06-07 09:37:30 · answer #2 · answered by Dr. Doom 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She's probably faking it that the marriage is back on track... but your friend should knows it better coz she's the one he sees & lives with daily. He's probably still in 'denial' stage... not wanting to find out if the wife still cheats on him... trying to trust her hard afterall he felt guilty of cheating on her in the 1st place. Perhaps, you should not tell your buddy about your suspicious thought of his wife. Just advise him to bring himself back to reality, be fearless of facing the truth...
2006-06-07 10:19:02 · answer #3 · answered by Rebornie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Both of them seem like they have some sort of insecurity within their relationship that makes it seem like they need somebody else but i would just step back for a few and let this takes its course your right in thinking though that this does not heal that quickly.
2006-06-07 09:21:28 · answer #4 · answered by skits 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What goes around comes around.
2006-06-07 09:19:57 · answer #5 · answered by baby_luv 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
80% of the time...
2006-06-07 09:19:19 · answer #6 · answered by yyy 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sounds like she is doing it as payback. maybe she wont maybe she will...its in her hands.
2006-06-07 09:20:13 · answer #7 · answered by dixiegalpa21 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
they are BOTH cheaters... they will do it again...
2006-06-07 09:27:05 · answer #8 · answered by bronzebabekentucky 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋