he makes $27 an hour, he is a Corrections Officer. ( But he also has child support for kids from his previous marriage.) I cant afford an apartment, car, and to have to start all over. I feel as though I should take the furniture when I go, but why do I feel guilty about that? I really truly wont be able to afford much of anything.
And because he hides things and lies so much I cant say well, lets just put this behind us and work on our marriage.
but I feel guilty about taking anything from him at all, furniture or monetarily.
Am I nuts! or just going nuts?
2006-06-07 02:15:14 · 7 answers · asked by Hope 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
you better get all you can!!! because we earned it.
sometimes in our lives it comes a time we have to work on our selves it is kind of a wake up call, everything happens for a reason. Work on yor self get a start to build a career, go to school start a business, or get a city job it is time to get more money or to find a feild that is more promising. You can no longer be comfortable and accept that kind of abusive.
I was always told never mess with matters of the heart it can get dangerous, I know you are tired, start making a way for yourself where you would need no one to survive.
he knows how much you make and he feel your not going anywhere BECAUSE you accepted what he is doing, no saying you like but by staying there over and over make he feel he can treat you the way he do. he feel you need him to survive. I would show him a thing or two IT IS TIME TO CHANGE!!!
know what you are worth.
find a room mating situation untill you get a higher paying job.I know it is not easy to room mate but it help out and look at it as a temporary situation.
2006-06-07 02:36:20 · answer #1 · answered by seeking 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Move out and take half of the furniture and other stuff with you. But at the same time if he wants to work on the marriage then seek a great marriage counselor and have him go with you ! If he refuses then go to a counselor and seek help for yourself. You are not nuts you are just really hurt and need to heal and get past the pain of all of this. You may need to seperate for a while but i dont feel that divorce is an option here.
2006-06-07 10:56:15 · answer #2 · answered by Lady Hewitt 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have to do what is important to u he should feel guilty he is the one doing the cheating to bad he pays support now he will have to pay u also.
No u are not nuts iam sure u went into the marriage thinking it would be u and him not u him and others do the right thing and leave it may be tuff for awhile but u will sleep better and feel better and u might just find that guy that just wants u.(good luck)
2006-06-07 09:48:32 · answer #3 · answered by mul169 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Take your $8 hr job and as little of the past and walk out with your dignity...for some reason I can see him causing alot of problems just to drive you nuts if you take anything more than your share, plus, don't let your $8 hr job put you right back into the same position your in....which is easier said than done, because the next joe smo with a good paying job is really going to look good...but may be no better emotionally than your current husband...beware..and good luck.
2006-06-07 09:32:19 · answer #4 · answered by Goodspeed 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You don't need to move out, kick him out, get a good lawyer and start taking some of that 27 dollars an hour.
2006-06-07 09:29:12 · answer #5 · answered by choppercam1 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
try low-income housing apartments-is the furniture yours-or did you guys pay for it together-if not take half-how long have you been married maybe you can get alimony
2006-06-07 09:44:43 · answer #6 · answered by Lola 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
kick him out and make him pay spousal support
2006-06-13 22:59:33 · answer #7 · answered by foreverb18 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋