I have a fear to speak with people and I want to avoid it without going to any traning programe pl advise me.?

Answer 1

You don't indicate whether this anxiety occurs when you are speaking in public, in front of a large audience, or if this is an everyday occurrence which happens no matter what the situation.

You also don't indicate who these people are: Strangers? Friends?

There are different courses of action to take depending upon your situation.

If you fear speaking to strangers and to the public, don't worry, most people share that anxiety. The key is to remember that it's not the end of the world- your bills aren't going to multiply and your health isn't going to deteriorate if you don't speak perfectly.

Take your time and slow down your speaking. Listen to what you are saying. If you find you are injecting what I call "verbal commas" (sounds such as "um, ah......, uh, like,) that is an indication that either you are speaking too fast, or you don't know your material.

If you don't know your material, then how can you be confident with your delivery? Also, while making eye contact is critical, it can be very difficult to do when you have anxiety. Simply look at random points through out the room- it will look to everyone as if you are making eye contact with everyone else.

If you have difficulty speaking with ANYONE in general conversation, there could be some underlying issues you need to uncover. More than likely there is a confidence issue at hand. If you don't want to seek professional help, I suggest simply remembering that no matter what you say, it's not the end of the world. Slow down. Breathe, and be cognisant of your body- are your muscles tightening? If so, pause your speaking, breathe, and relax, then continue.

There isn't a time limit when you have a conversation with a friend or a stranger, so don't feel rushed or pressed. Also remember that no one is making any sort of character judgements about you when you speak. It's not how you speak, it's what you say that effects your character.

If you're worried about what you say, then I again say- know what you are saying. Don't speak if you know nothing about the subject at hand- rather, don't speak as if you have knowledge about it.

Another technique is to ask questions- rephrase what you want to say so that others have to do the speaking, and use their answers as a base for what you will say next.

Instead of saying, "I really liked that movie" and being too nervous to list your reasons why, for example, ask- "Did you like that movie?" The ball is in the other person's court- they will answer, "Yes" or "no", and then YOU are in control- you can now ask "Why?" Then again, the ball is back in their court. You are having a conversation without really doing much speaking.

Above all, remember that we are all capable of fear and anxiety, and we are all capable of conquering it. Everyone has different methods; it's up to you to find yours. You're not going to find it if you're too afraid to try.

Good luck to you.

Answer 2

First, you have to think positive. Believe that you can always impress people and speak your words clearly. Never mumble, as this is a sign of lack of confidence.

Learn how to use the English language effectively, read about jokes, interesting stories, quotations, idioms and use them with friends.

Communication is also about non-verbal language. Stand straight, look at your listener in his/her eyes, use different voice tones to emphasise importance of certain phrases or sentences.

Breathe normally and think clearly before you speak.

Answer 3

try to hang out with ur friends who dont have these fears spend more time with them be a part of social group no body is gonna hurt u or say bad things about u if u talk to them u r brave enough to post a question over here :) so why wud u be afraid of talkin to people bro every day try to talk to people for example let say today u talked to one guy right so next day try to talk to 2 guys no body is gonna harm u bro if u talk to them when ever u feel fear just tell ur self that no body is gonna hurt me for talkin i wont get into any trouble and just do the talking believe in urself and best of luck :)

Answer 4

to speak to people in which language may u r lacking in expressing urself properly in English.But now u hv to be confident that is ur psychology & u r feeling inferior thats why u fear to speak.
So be careless may be u r wrong but express properly.To speak english do read more books and magazines so ur vocab will be strong,gradually u will gain confidence.

Answer 5

a fear of speaking with anyone or just strangers? If this fear is really bad and you don't seem to be able to control it than you need to go see a therapist.

Answer 6

Start out speaking to folks a little at a time. After a while it will start getting easier. After you start to get comfortable with it you may find you really enjoy it.

Answer 7

begi with looking people straight in their eyes while conversing.don't think about ur fear always..imagine that u have no other option other than 2 talk n that someone is valueing ur answers n ur approach..be confident, breathe easy..wear a jolly smile always

Answer 8

simple...use on line chatting n practice charisma in front of the mirror.i think if u talk with people without any reason it doesn't make any sense...so be in a friend group...n be confident wat u r saying...i hope u get through out of this. best of luck

Answer 9

Just by doing it and try to find a friend.

Answer 10

nothing happens through advise.it is you to think and forward.but if you attend for any personel devolopment seminars i think it will help you.