What options does such a woman have? (excluding divorce)
2006-06-07 01:40:09 · 7 answers · asked by lycia 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
A man who does this is not really a man. Excluding divorce, your options would be to go to marriage counseling with him, talk to him and let him know how burdened you are. Do not allow him any money if he can't earn any himself. I don't know your situation. Does he work at all or what? PM me if you want.
2006-06-07 02:10:37 · answer #1 · answered by mye77 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
It depends on what perspective you are looking at things from. I know many people who would ask, "Is it fair for a woman to depend fianancially on her husband?"
The key here, I believe is "overburderned". The best relationship advice I ever got was from a minister right before our marriage (ironic since I'm not very religious) It was that we should not base relationships on a 50/50 give and take. Instead, each partner should give 90% and take 10%. That way there was a great overlap in the amount being given.
If either party is overburdened in a relationship, than there is bound to be a great deal of stress and the likelyhood that the marriage will fail increases. My suggestion is sitting down and trying to talk about the current financial situation. See if the two people cannot work out some happy middle ground. If that doesn't work, I would then consider family counciling.
Sometimes, nothing can help. Money is one of the greatest factors involved in divorce. It is very difficult to safe and secure in a financially unstable relationship. If one person is being overburdened, this becomes even more difficult.
Definately try to work the matters of finances out before resorting to separation or divorce. It is so sad when money ruins love.
Best wishes.
2006-06-08 00:35:46 · answer #2 · answered by Ell 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No it's not fair and other than divorce you can try seperatin until he learns he needs to be independant and that the marriage is give and take not take take take. Don't support him the same way you get your azz up and go to work he can do the same thing!
2006-06-07 10:01:56 · answer #3 · answered by Danette 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Odd question, I know dozens of women that have no problem doing it to their husbands. We live in a world of total equality now (I believe the ladies wanted it that way). I say soak it up.
2006-06-07 09:46:51 · answer #4 · answered by onegray79 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well hun i'm not married but i do lean on my girlfriend pretty hard financially but there is nothing she could ask me for that i wouldn't break my back to try and do for her. so as far as "fair" i really am not sure. i think i do the best i can with my job and contributions.
2006-06-07 08:48:22 · answer #5 · answered by josh 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Make him get a job or do his share work around the house.... If he refuses to work then by all means work but then he needs to be the house husband !
2006-06-07 11:02:22 · answer #6 · answered by Lady Hewitt 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it seems a lazy man
2006-06-07 08:57:01 · answer #7 · answered by leadbelly 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋