a friend of male mine has got in to a relationship with a girl who is getting divorced (apparently!) She has 2 young kids by her husband/ex husband and my friend gets on great with both of them. This isnt the problem... The girl still shares a house with the man she is apparently divorcing, she says that the courts have told her that come 9pm, she HAS to stay upstairs with her 2 children and her husband can live in the downstairs part of the house till 6am! Personally i cant see a judge saying this as surely its mental cruelity 4 the kids knowing their dad is downstairs and they cant go and see him?! I was worried that the girl was going to trap my mate in2 having 2 stay with her-which is exactly what she is doing! the kids have attached themsevles to him, and vice versa! would the courts say her husband is allowed to stay at the house? its not council, its privately rented?? my friend has to leave at 9pm until 6am! then he goes ova to get her kids breakfast etc! her mums backin her!
2006-06-07 01:20:38 · 24 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I think hes getting set up in a huge way! suddenly shes also pregnant, apparently only just but he reckons shes showing!! i want to ask him where her ex husbands clothes etc are since hes not allowed upstairs!! we live in uk....probably explains alot! full of strange rules, laws and seems to have fair few dippy judges!!
2006-06-07 01:31:56 · update #1
no house in the divorce settlement to fight over and neither can afford to leave.
what's in the best interest of the children? having a home.
she probably wants him to stay there to make it uncomfortable for the biological dad , but he can't stay over night because the divorce isn't final yet. if he stays the night, she can loose the kids.
it's part of the gov't. sticking their noses into people's private lives. they want to make it difficult for those who want to divorce. (because of high divorce rate and kids are more well adjusted with 2 parents - whatever!)
2006-06-07 01:33:48 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I do know it sounds weird, but the courts ordered my brother to do the same thing. If the husband or wife leave the house at night in the care of the other one, then it is grounds for desertion and the person who left the house will never get to see the kids or get anything in the divorce. This makes it less complicated.
2006-06-07 03:22:34 · answer #2 · answered by freeflyingfalcon 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it sounds very strange to me and certainly rather suspicious. The house is only rented so I'm not sure why any residency issue would be brought before the court. I would take a little comfort from the fact that they must be seperated, or she couldnt involve the kids in her new relationship. Kids talk about these things, so its obviously ok for their dad to know about your friend. Does this lady ever get to stay over night with your friend?
2006-06-07 01:29:34 · answer #3 · answered by melnellie2000 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sometimes divorcing people do live in the same house, bizarre as that sounds, but I can't see any judge saying that the children have to stay away from their father. But the law is known to be an *** so maybe..........(I know of divorced people who did live in the same house because until divorce settlement when the house was sold they could not afford to live apart, and it IS legal)
2006-06-07 01:27:11 · answer #4 · answered by survivor 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am divorced and know several people that are....NO Judge would tell a divorcing couple to "live" together in one house! That is cruelty to the kids! I am thinking that the divorcing couple WANTS to stay together in the house and told the judge that. Why would you spend all that time and money to divorce to keep the situation the same?
2006-06-07 01:26:29 · answer #5 · answered by Dani 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I stayed with my ex as a convenience thing. When there was alcohol involved in the evening we "hung out". When i found someone that was worth it to me I made the arrangements to get the ex out of the picture. There is always another option for the both of them. If she really wanted the relationship to work she would go the extra mile to get away from the bad one.
2006-06-07 06:22:48 · answer #6 · answered by belli 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your friend could always talk to a solicitor and see if that ruling with the house is possible. I dont think it is though and the propety is only rented she is taking him for a ride, show him all these answers and just explian how worried you are about him good luck
2006-06-08 03:42:46 · answer #7 · answered by dizzymooo 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This sounds well dodge, I would steer well clear of anything like that, how can the courts police what the parents get up to in the house?
2006-06-07 01:29:51 · answer #8 · answered by lizarddd 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like a very strange arrangement.
Where do you live?
Was wondering where in the world a judge would make a decision like that.
2006-06-07 01:26:16 · answer #9 · answered by snakeman11426 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe a tempary thing untill ,the judge makes final desion . i would ask to see the papers. now days werid things are decided if both need aplace and sometimes ,house are get divived , people are shareing kids half time each to.
2006-06-07 01:27:05 · answer #10 · answered by it,sme 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋