His Son got kill in Iraq, He always call me a “bleeding-heart liberal and Anti-American” what ever that means, last week he took his flag down and yesterday he started talking to me about how he is Anti- Republican, should I trust him or is he setting me up?
2006-06-07 01:11:55 · 8 answers · asked by Jessica 2 in Politics & Government ➔ Politics
Reality hit "home". Also, one of the stages of grief, is anger.
Allow him to rant, without delving into politics.
War seems like such an abstract thing, until you find yourself having made the ultimate sacrifice of your child.
His feelings may change in time, and, they may not. It's something he has to come to terms with, on his own. And in his own time.
Just be supportive of him in this time of need. He may thank you someday for being a caring, "bleeding -heart liberal". His Republican friends may be spewing the usual "gave his life for his country" type of thing...which, as a father, he may not want to be hearing right now.
2006-06-07 01:34:07 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would first be very honest with him and say "I find it interesting that you've done a 180 all of a sudden, mind telling me why the change"?
This way, you can see what changed his mind so drastically. Given he's such a died-in-the-wool republican, it is strange. My guess is that his son being killed did it. That really hits home big time.
You also may want to express how he called you some unsavory names and that in order to have any kind of discussion, you expect an appology first. If he gives you one from his heart, then I would say he is being genuine. If he stalls, don't trust him as far as you can throw him.
Either way, stand by what you believe and express yourself in a mature and intelligent way...maybe you can further educate him. A person who is a true American knows that this country was founded on principals that allow for all to have an opinion.
2006-06-07 08:18:37 · answer #2 · answered by MadforMAC 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First off, he is probably reacting to the unfortunate death of his son. So, you kind of have to give him some leeway for a while. However the next time he ridicules you for being a liberal simply remind him that the word liberal means without bigotry then ask him what's wrong with being without bigotry.
2006-06-07 08:15:57 · answer #3 · answered by zaffaris 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Never trust a repuglican, but have some sypathy, he did lose his son to a war with no purpose.
2006-06-07 08:18:21 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You shouldn't blame your own country for losing a soldier. If you live in this country you should support it and its leaders. You have the right to disagree, but that right has been given to you by the soldiers that fight our wars.
2006-06-07 08:16:09 · answer #5 · answered by Jodo 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's trying to deal with his grief and anger. Just be his friend, that's what he needs.
2006-06-07 08:21:54 · answer #6 · answered by Pitchow! 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be his friend. I am so sorry he lost his son, and his anger is completely normal. God bless him.
2006-06-07 08:14:42 · answer #7 · answered by paj 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sounds like he's setting you up to yell at you about being un-patriotic. don't fall for it! say things like, "oh really?" and "Ah"
2006-06-07 08:14:50 · answer #8 · answered by iteach2change 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋