I need your advice on this...?

Question

I'm in a phase of depression and I need to know how to get over it...I'm loosing my concentration at work...I'm loosing intrest in almost everything I like...all I do is zone out infront of the TV and cry myself to sleep...

My problem is that I'm in love with a man I work with....I'm not sure if he has feelings for me but I know there is a physical attraction between us...Lately he's been teasing me about marriage and If I would mind if he asked for my hand..I dont know if he's joking or not...But a part of me was hoping he was serious about asking me...

Now I dont care anymore...I just want to get over him and over this depression i'm in...I hate myself for letting this stupid issue affect me this much...

So if someone has any good advice as in how I can get over this whole issue and be able to moveon with my life I'd appreciate it..
Thanks.

Answer 1

Why are you so stressed over this guy?
Is he married already or something?
Did he do something to you to make you want to stop & get over him so quickly, before giving it a chance?
I personally think that office romance's are not a good idea but, if their is no other people involved within your life and his why not try it?
If you are serious about getting over him, you must stop putting yourself in spots to have time to think about him, you need to get out of the house and around other people, your friends, or something so that you don't have time to sit around and think about this all day long, go work out at the gym, on the weekends go out to club, or go for a walk in the park, just anything to get your mind going in a different direction.
I hope you do get over this, because you will make yourself sick, and as I see it, your'e too young to be wasting your life away, you should be enjoying it.

Answer 2

well you took the first step... admitting you are depressed.
i have a feeling he is not your only worry. go to see a doctor to get checked out to see if something is physically wrong, then go see a therapist. if you and your co-worker are friends then maybe you need to sit down and have a talk with him. obviously you don't know each other well enough to get married so his "teasing" is hurting you more. get your life back on track then find someone who will treat you right and really does love you. this sounds like a lot of trouble but, "YOU ARE WORTH IT" !!
start on that road NOW, don't put it off. GOD BLESS !!!

Answer 3

Be there for her and check out and get her to speak to her mother and father... By her speakme to them offers her extra choices on wether or now not she wishes to maintain it and even adoption she has extra choices now than she is going to later. Her mother and father will uncover out finally simply make certain it isn't to past due. And be a well pal and check out and aid/consultant her to make the offerings she wishes and now not what any individual "wishes" her to do given that she am has to manage it afterward in lifestyles it doesn't matter what she comes to a decision... And like the lady earlier than mentioned her mother and father will develop to the notion and sure there is a risk they are going to free it however the will not hurt her or the little one. So inspire her to make her choices a good way to advantage her finally.

Answer 4

you need a confidence check- has this man demoralised you? He certainly hasn't raised your self-esteem. You need to speak to him about the 'teasing' ,which could consitiute harassment, and involve trustworthy colleagues if necessary.
Have you had a relationship with him outside work? If not then he is nothing but a work colleague and maybe you could ask himout to see how he reacts.

Answer 5

i think dont ask no one what do u have to do about it, take ur time n decide for ur self what do u think u should do about this. once u decide just do it. n b calm.
u will find ur self very happy in next couple of weeek.
i m sure u will.
its not important whats gonna happen wid u but what can u do is more important.isnt it.

Answer 6

been there, done that. it takes time, that's is the only factor to healing. time. and time can take SO long, i know. but ur not dumb, u know this. so just occupy ur time in ne thing u can, and ur mind little by little will wander and loose all concentration on this guy. ur letting him live rent free in ur head right now

Answer 7

u need to figure out if he's joking, or whether he does have feelings for u as well.

for depression, u should ask a doctor n they may prescribe medication. if u let your depression go on, it will only get worse.

u need to decide on whether u want to be with this person, or if its not meant to be. u need to confront him about if he's being serious with u, or not

good luck!

Answer 8

MAY BE I CAN HELP U THINK THAT MAN PLAYING WITH U.LAST TIME U ASK HIM & CLEAR ALL THINGS.IF ANSWER IS NAGETIVE THEN LIVE IT,DON'T MIND.FORGET ALL THINGS.
AS UR WORKING WITH HIM SO DON'T CARE ABOUT HIM.SUPPOSE HIM AS NORMALCOLIGUE,DON'T GIVIE HIM IMPORTANCE.TRY TO CONCENTRATE ON UR WORK IN OFFICE.AND OUT OF OFFICE SPEND MORE TIME IN UR FRIENDS.KEEP YOURSELF HAPPY'N'COOL.CAUSE TIME IS BIG SOLUTION ON ANY PROBLEM.OK. IF LIKE THEN TRY TO
DO AS I TOLD OTHERWISE LIVE IT. OK TAKE CARE.

Answer 9

this is the time to make use of your friends .. if you cant talk to him directly ask one of your/his best friend to help.

and regarding coming over the dippression. you have written the answer all by your self, but make sure that if you dont get the person you love to find someone else.

may be he desrves you not.

Answer 10

better be busy in some work whole day n dont think much of ur past think of ur future n try to be tenssion free whole day , its diffcult i know bt u hav to overcome it otherwise u will be in more dipression