I just got married and I never told my wife about my past affairs as it has no relevance in my present. Some how she came to know about it and now is angry with me. She thinks that I dont love her and am still in love with my ex-gf. She is not ready to trust me. I love her and want to pacify. How to tackle the situation and win her back?
2006-06-07 00:56:32 · 11 answers · asked by vatsayan 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Been through that my friend. There is no simple answer coz it's done. Tell her very politely that your relationship cannot live in the past and since you cannot change it, if she is so concerned she must have her freedom. Not simple, but that is how it should be. You cannot erase your past, only GOD can. I agree it has no relevance to your present circumstances. If it happened before you met her, she should love you for what you are. I hope she is an angel!!!
2006-06-07 01:02:40 · answer #1 · answered by 1967 2 · 7⤊ 3⤋
Be honest wtih her and let her know about your past. Dot it calmly and in a gentle way and if it was before you ever married or knew her then it should not break up your marriage even though you should of told her before you married her. Do not talk with your ex and other women at all treat her like a queen and how did she find out about the past? If you have done nothing to harm your marriage then she will have to forgive you of your past and move on and if she can't she may need counseling for this and dont do anything to make her mistrust you again. You need to apologize for not telling her about what you have done in the past and ask her to forgive you and may i ask why you never told her ? Were you scared?
2006-06-07 03:47:50 · answer #2 · answered by Lady Hewitt 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why is your wife concern about your past. It just that your past. It sounds like things that happen before you were married. Does she have or past or was she a virgin when you married her. If not, she should leave your past in the past and move on from there. We are all humans and make mistakes. Continue to tell her that you are not in love with your ex-gf. If she chooses not to believe, oh well.
2006-06-07 03:48:21 · answer #3 · answered by kitcat 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How long did you know each other before getting married? See, when people are friends first then they really get to know someone before getting serious. Maybe you feel your past is irrelevant to your present, but your past got you to where you are. While dating, did she ask you about past relationships? If so and you lied, you have given her no reason to trust you. Honesty, trust and communication are great things to have in a relationship. If you don't, then what do you have? Good luck
2006-06-07 01:04:46 · answer #4 · answered by fungirl 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The first mistake was not telling your wife about your past relationships. Women are curious, and since you didn't tell her, she thinks you were hiding something. Take a day and sit down with her to talk about the past. Let her ask whatever questions she wants, and answer them. That way everything is out in the open and you can move forward with your relationship.
I wanted to know about my boyfriend's past. He shared the unpleasant stories, filled my curiosity and now we don't talk about it.
2006-06-07 02:00:09 · answer #5 · answered by someone 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell her to leave the past in the past. Otherwise it will damage the present and the future. Tell her your feelings on the ex-girlfriend. She sounds insecure in your relationship. Give her time. Trust is very important in any relationship. Talk to her.
2006-06-07 01:04:17 · answer #6 · answered by windandwater 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
expensive guy...The question to ask your self is "how lots do you like the dating?"Did you're making an contract which comprise your spouse to take her back and artwork issues out?How do you experience approximately that now?the different concern is the excuses for the affair,what have been they? have been they issues or situations that gained`t take place back?don't be frightened of individual counseling with the aid of fact speaking it with the aid of may additionally assist you. attempting to conceal from it in no way works...You don`t would desire to forget ...yet forgive {it is that in case you want to stay at the same time}of course have confidence has been broken and have confidence is the cornerstone of a marriage....the marriage can mend yet heavily isn't fairly a similar.i think of you quite need to come again out and communicate..and communicate approximately it to the counselor. you would be able to desire to realize a sparkling determination on your individual innovations..and it particularly is this..Do i desire the dating sufficient to stand the frustration and soreness for a on a similar time as? How do i've got self belief with regard to the prospect it would desire to take place back? Am I content sufficient in my very own innovations that it became a one off?Did my previous behaviour play any area in what got here approximately? {be common with your self]in case you may definitely answer confident to those form of questions then you definately can pass forward at the same time...it is going to take time even however...and extra time than you would be able to think of. If the respond isn't any..then you definately would desire to think again your destiny at the same time...I do desire you success
2016-10-30 08:37:51 · answer #7 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have her read this question that you posted, which obviously show how much you love her and want things to work. If it does not work, then maybe counseling with the family pastor will work. Either way, good luck, and God Bless.
2006-06-07 01:00:33 · answer #8 · answered by candy0813 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
don't say her anything.your present and your behaviour would show to her everything.ask some of your friend or a confidential person to clearify your wife and ask forgiveness from her.give her trust and love.give her so much attention and trust that she forgets everything.
2006-06-07 01:01:09 · answer #9 · answered by amina a 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're an idiot. Obviously there's something for her to worry about, otherwise you would've told her about your past gf's.
2006-06-07 01:01:44 · answer #10 · answered by smurfette_au2000 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋