I've known my best friend almost as long as I've known my parents. I think we were meant to be sisters. Last night my husband and I saw her boyfriend sitting on his tailgate in a store parking lot with some girl (not my friend). We tried not to be suspicious and went into the store. When we came out they were standing behind the open door of the girl's car. He had been walking toward his truck, but turned quickly to HIDE behind the car door when he saw us. He crouched down below the level of the door, the girl was looking at us, and when we drove by he had his hand up to cover his face. We turned around immediately and had to pass them again (still crouching), so I could go to my Mom's house, because I didn't know what to do. If he hadn't HIDDEN from me I probably wouldn't really think anything, but he did. I didn't actually see them DO anything, but my husband thinks they may have kissed.I think she's got to at least know there's suspicion, but how do I tell her?
2006-06-07 00:17:30 · 19 answers · asked by krisski 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
exactly like you've told us
2006-06-07 00:20:04 · answer #1 · answered by conspicuous 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
If you guys have been friends for that long, I'd just come out & tell her straight, exactly as it happened. If he had nothing to hide, he WOULDNT have been hiding. She may suspect something already & this may be the 'straw to break the camels back' u know? U may be saving her from making a mistake in the future. If you tell her, just tell her in a matter-of-fact tone, not in an accusing way. I think she'd appreciate your honesty & more than likely she'd trust you before she trusted him (hopefully). If you dont tell her, it may be on your conscience or he may slip & say something about seeing you, then she'd wonder why you never said anything. No harm in telling her. Put the shoe on the other foot (if you werent married).......
2006-06-07 07:27:18 · answer #2 · answered by WhatheHell 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Shru is right.
If you don't tell your friend, it's going to be a mess.
He's going to cheat on her and she doesn't deserve to live that life.
I know it's going to be devastating for her, and she might even not believe you (Denile is not just a river in Egypt), and in fact, she might even get mad at you.
But in the end, you'll know you did the right thing no matter what decision she makes.
At least the truth was given to her.
To many, the truth is simply all people need to be liberated.
Be the liberator!
2006-06-07 07:22:34 · answer #3 · answered by The Mac 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would speak to the guy first, you don't want to cause upset as you didn't actually see anything naughty. Speak to him and give him the opportunity to explain things to you, it may be totally innocent, tell him he must tell his girlfriend (give him a time limit, say 3 days or so) then say to him if he has not explained to your friend in this time then you will have to tell her. He will more than likely speak to his g/f himself and you won't need to get involved.
2006-06-07 07:49:09 · answer #4 · answered by sparkleythings_4you 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If your friend is really in love with this man and thinking about marriage, she will not believe you. Just be there for her. It will all work out. The boyfriend might just tell on his self thinking you have already told her.
2006-06-07 08:06:41 · answer #5 · answered by unstress38 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just be a bit wary in wanting to tell your friend yet.Sometimes these things can backfire on you,and you won't have a friend anymore.Keep an eye on the boyfriend for awhile.
2006-06-07 07:24:24 · answer #6 · answered by Ruby Jane 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try to be comforting I guess......Her feelings might be hurt, but it will be worse if you don't tell her. Maybe you should sound hopeful because you didn't actually see him DO anything(make sure you tell her this) Good luck! It might be hard but being there for her is about the best you can do.
2006-06-07 07:24:20 · answer #7 · answered by swish 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
dont say anyting until u know for sure u need evedience if u tell ur friend now while she is talking about spending the rest of her life with this man and u have no evedience u cud end up loosin ur friend
2006-06-07 07:23:01 · answer #8 · answered by helenamcdonagh 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just talk to her. say hey what did yall do last night? if she says he was somewhere else besides where you saw him. reveal it. be a true friend. it will hurt a lot worse when she finds out if she also knows her friend covered it up.trust me, i have experience being on the hurt end of that.
2006-06-07 07:25:34 · answer #9 · answered by sarah 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell them everything you saw, and if you like give her the option of hearing it from your husband as well.
2006-06-07 07:46:52 · answer #10 · answered by mischief 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just tell her because if she finds out and knew that you had known
she wont be too happy with you shes meant to be your friend stand up to your duty and tell her once and for all kick that cheat to the kirb were he belongs
2006-06-07 07:26:46 · answer #11 · answered by liberty 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋