I am in luv with a guy n we both hv planned to get married in a yr or 2. But we both want our parents consent. His parents has almost accepted this relationship.But i dint evn mention it to my parents. They dont no tht i hv an affair also. I belong to a conservative family n we both are of different religion. I hv an elder sister who is yet to get married. So whn shuld i say it to my parents? n how will i tell thm, so tht they will accept this relationship n at the same time wont get hurt? Pls help me!!!!!!
2006-06-06 22:50:07 · 10 answers · asked by Maria Abhi 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Just be honest with your parents...tell them how you feel about the young man.
Good luck
2006-06-06 22:53:39 · answer #1 · answered by sisbee8 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Depends on your culture and religion.
If he's Muslim, you might have to convert. If you're Muslim, he'll definitely have to convert.
If your sister is still single, your culture might dictate that she be married first...I don't know. You'll have to find that out. If this is so, then you have another problem. In some cultures, it's not a big deal who gets married first.
If your family is very conservative, they might have a problem with the relationship, especially if they find out that you're already to the point of loving him and they're just finding out about it now...because the trust issue comes up, and then complicated by ego etc...
Have you even talked to them yet about any kind of relationship? Perhaps they're not as scary as you think. Parents generally love their children and want only what's best for them. Unfortunately, they might already have a 'plan' for you and it might not involve getting married to a person of a different religion...you've had tonnes of time to be used to your man...they will need time to work through that idea too.
2006-06-06 22:56:45 · answer #2 · answered by stacey 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its wise atleast now you think on this, first wait till your sis get married then look for the right time when your parents are ready to give you something this moment happen in most of the happy occasions and try to use the influence of some one else like ur sis or gran parents who can influence ur parents so that u will have some extra support on this so come on dont waste time try to impress some one other than ur parents like Grandparents and keep ur parents happy always and you will win. My best wishes for you.
2006-06-06 22:55:18 · answer #3 · answered by sree 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
the way you present this matter to your parents will decide their consent. Dont put it across as if you did something wrong.
Wear a smile on your face, exude that confidence when you talk to them about it! Let them "feel" this is what you want and are really happy about it.
If you dont show confidence in your love and in your decision to have loved this guy, they will obviously act protective thinking you have made a mistake!
So, cheer up....when you bring this topic to your parents....have that glow on your face....as if this was the best thing ever that happened to you....and you are sure about this relationship.....
even a slight fear or confusion when talking to your parents can wreck the outcome.
and always always act happy in front of your parents(many days before you talk to your parents ab him).....let them feel that this guy has actually made you happy!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
and still.....if they are against it.....DONT GET HURT. Just smile and act as if they are being silly. Just be EXTREMELY confident ab the decision you have made to live with this guy......and i'm sure your parents will agree! if you need more advice, you can surely ask. All the best.....
believe in your love ...have faith in it. dont give up.
2006-06-06 23:02:28 · answer #4 · answered by . 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be honest with them.
When I was at school I knew a couple who were of different religions. The boys parents never accepted their relationship and fought with him constantly over it, always wanting him to break up with his gf even though they were completely in love. After a particularly bad argument with them he went to the train station, called his parents and said "I hope you're happy". He then jumped infront of a train and killed himself. His parents have to live with that everyday now, because they couldn't just approve of the girl he loved.
Even if your parents don't approve, be with the guy you love regardless.
2006-06-06 23:12:56 · answer #5 · answered by smurfette_au2000 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just sit them down and tell them. Before you do make sure you know the consequences of doing so. There are relaigions out there that take this too seriously and you need to be careful it doesnt fragment your family. Be sure this relationship of yours is worth it before you go through that.
2006-06-06 22:54:27 · answer #6 · answered by bigjimmyguy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well as u have told the situation to be i think you should probably wait for some time.and for further assistance or help i will give you my girlfriend e-mail i.d ,she is a psychologist and is really good so you can take help from her. hina24k@yahoo.com
2006-06-06 22:56:41 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
how old are you? if you need your parents consent then you are not of age is that right? or are you of age but afraid of what your parents might think follow your heart this is your life now not your mothers of fathers
2006-06-06 23:28:48 · answer #8 · answered by treatau 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Listen to parents they are often right. thes thigs are infatuations for which u will regret later. love is temporay. ur should resspect ur parents wishes
2006-06-06 22:56:17 · answer #9 · answered by rahul s 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
make sure that he is worth loosing your family for
2006-06-06 22:56:05 · answer #10 · answered by destiny 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋