Do you keeping thinking about it? How do you deal with these thoughts? Any solutions to stop thinking about it? Or ways to stand guard at your mind or prevent people saying such things or thoughts?
2006-06-06 22:48:01 · 10 answers · asked by Zee99 3 in Social Science ➔ Psychology
when I was 6 my dad passed away and my Mother dealt with this by locking herself away and my brothers taking care of me, I think that had somthing to do with me being the way you explaine,the littlest thing I ponderd for days.By the time I was 14 I was nearly crazy I didnt go to school only had couple of friends and I now no it was just to protect myself from people saying things that may by hurtfull and me being upset and worried! Then at 16 I met my husband to be,he learned me how to stick up for myself and how to deal with the fears and feelings I had!I learned things like you cant stop people saying things people will always do this in life you got to learn how to deal with it,I now dont give a flying fu*k whatpeople say about me life is to short I find people who pick at people do it for there own insecurities to big them selfs up!! Now I pitty them!!
2006-06-12 19:26:04 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well sounds like someone has said something to upset you lately and you are having negative thoughts about it? I would get a grip on that right now and speak to your doctor. 1 in 4 people suffer with depression and it can take over your life and ruin it.
It can be overcome and you can learn to dismiss things that other people say and have a bad affect on you.
congnitive therapy teaches you to challenge negative thoughts and to deal with thoughts that "don't fit the facts"
In life, you will always come across tactless people who say things that are nasty or rude. Learn to accept that they are the ones with the problem. Not you.
2006-06-07 05:55:36 · answer #2 · answered by super_star 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You probably have low self esteem. You judge yourself so you think everyone else is judging you. What you have to tell yourself is that as long as you are true to your conscience, no-one has the right to judge you. If they don't like you it's there problem, not yours. Do some work on building your confidence and learn to love yourself, then you won't need everyone else to. You are a great person or you would not be worried in the first place :) x
2006-06-07 06:34:53 · answer #3 · answered by pamperpooch39 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are you talking about someone telling you did something wrong, or just the general attitude of most of the population on earth?
IF you did something wrong, I would consider spending time debating if you did or didn't. But if it just the general nit picking that seems to be predominate nowadays, I would just blow it off and get on with my life, don't waste time thinking about something so trivial!
2006-06-07 09:42:57 · answer #4 · answered by babydoll121070 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It all depends with the relevance of that something to my life. But usually i do consider other people s sayings and if it means to contribute my point of view i always do.But when i want to forget something i just ignore it and think no more about it.
2006-06-07 09:24:44 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
listen, first ask ur self whether the mistake is on ur side or on the person who scolds u. even if it is on ur side, stop thinking about it. forget it. even if u can't listen to soft music. if the thought comes again, just discard it. u don't have to break ur head for that. again, after some-days, even if u get that thought you won't take it even a pinch seriously or it wont trouble u.
2006-06-07 05:53:36 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It goes with what has been said to you.Is it annoying or it is something you have to keep on your mind.Then yes you have to keep thinking about it.But if it is just a passing comment you just forget about it.With passage of time everything gets forgotten.
2006-06-07 06:31:57 · answer #7 · answered by Bob Mukonka 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dude! why bother?? i don't care much of what people are saying or thinking..is mostly rubbish anyway! If they like me..then they like me like this..why should i even consider changing for them huh??
2006-06-09 17:19:58 · answer #8 · answered by Cipi 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sometiomes it is best not to think too muych about what other people said about you. Or you give people too much attention....
2006-06-10 10:11:54 · answer #9 · answered by maria p 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If it is a promise beneficial to you,defnitely you will remind.
2006-06-07 07:52:42 · answer #10 · answered by leowin1948 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋