the guy i like doesn't remember some important things that i say to him, i need to repeat everything twice that really hurts me because i feel i don't have his attention. he says that's because of his bad memory . in my opinion when someone forgets something it's just he is not interested.
am i right? or just overreacting?
2006-06-06 22:42:19 · 21 answers · asked by Fairy Princess 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
If it isn't just with you, he may have ADD, or Attention Deficit Disorder. People with ADD have so any thoughts and ideas running through their heads all the time, it can make it hard for them to slow down in their brains to take in inforation as it happens. If he gets energetic bursts, yet rarely finishes things, he may want to be tested.
If it IS just with you, well, good luck!
2006-06-19 10:27:12 · answer #1 · answered by bigheadbride 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Everyone has the tendency to remember some events completely or partially, this depends on their focus, concentration and some other factors.
If you want to test your BF, try to ask him about something he likes and didn’t see or watch for over a year, if you find that he is still remembering all the detail then he is probably trying to give you a polite answer for not being to remember stuff about both of you.
If he tends to forget most of the important details about his favorite sport, or a special event that matters to him, then he is really suffering from memory loss.
After all don’t be judgmental, just enjoy your time with him and try to accept things the way they are.
Don’t questions his love or attention, if he didn't like you, he wouldn't choose you as his girl.
2006-06-13 03:52:41 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Bad memory sounds like it could be an excuse. Think about it, does he remember what he wants to and what is important to him? If so, then you don't have his attention. You have to decide if you can deal with it or keep looking for the right guy?
2006-06-19 04:42:16 · answer #3 · answered by Christina 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just to give a twist on this question i used to have a chronic bad memory and i discovered later that i was low in vitamin b after several months of taking supplements i have no problems at all also the omega oils help also just remember that when you decide what you want to do, Have you discussed this matter with him?
2006-06-19 02:02:34 · answer #4 · answered by robert S 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
IF U ASK ME...I said not true....I never pay too much attention or none at all...and don't care about regular stuff that other women do...like how much money a guy have or earns...where he lives...sometimes I don't even care about their last names....but I do care about knowing the person in a more deep level....and not all guys care about what u think is important like dates and stuff....
LOTS OF WOMEN thing some ridiculous thing like annyversaries r important, some men don't...etc etc
2006-06-20 17:31:52 · answer #5 · answered by know it all 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
overreacting...it happens all the time, guys don't always think the same things are as important as women do. Sometimes, they just don't listen to you when you are talking. Just a guy thing and that is way it is important to have atleast on female friend
2006-06-17 11:33:52 · answer #6 · answered by bubbles 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
OK here is the secret we men keep from you. We ignore half of the stuff you say because we are easily bored or amused. The way to get us to remember is by saying this little phrase just before you saysomething important. "Now I'm only going to say this once....." We will turn off the tv and listen. I know because my girlfriend figured it out and now I'm trained to pick up her cues.
2006-06-20 11:39:05 · answer #7 · answered by Bill F 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well Im going to tell you now that I have very bad listening skills and its not because im not interested in what anybody has to say my friends get very upset with me when they have to repeat thereselves. Maybe its not his memory that is bad its his listening skills very common among guys. Maybe its ADD dont get mad at him try to understand him.
2006-06-20 16:21:31 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think you are right cause I have the same problem too. It really hurt deep inside knowing that they are not listening to what your saying. Or sometimes they even twist the story around, then thats what you call your really hurting.
2006-06-20 20:50:05 · answer #9 · answered by jennie1269 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Men listen at a considerably lower rate than woman. This hurts in many relationships. Believe me I know. And it won't get any easier.
2006-06-20 15:07:43 · answer #10 · answered by wrkingforit 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋