Being spiritually oriented has made me more conscientious about being open with people (compassionately), and yet i sometimes seem to reveal too much to the wrong person or people, thus never hearing from them again, or missing out on opportunities associated with them.....i would never revert to lying, and always try to be sensitive to whomever i am addressing. i also realize that you cannot please everyone. Any suggestions on how to do better with this?
2006-06-06 22:30:47 · 11 answers · asked by Night Spirit 2 in Society & Culture ➔ Other - Society & Culture
WOW!....
i got 10 out of 11 very useful, wise, varied and thoughtful answers (one well-meaning, but inappilcable.)
thank you all!
sincerely,
Night Spirit
2006-06-07 07:51:10 · update #1
Wow!
i got 10 out of 11 very useful, wise, varied and thoughtful answers (one well-meaning, but not applicable).....
thanks so much, my friends!
Sincerely,
Night Spirit!
2006-06-07 07:59:36 · update #2
I think praying on it helps.
my father taught me this a young child:
Telling the truth is not always telling everything that is in your head.
Try this when you feel like telling the truth it may help. Also, I find if I might be talking too much I think would I want to write this down and if I say no to myself then I do not tell the story or whatever if I say yes then I tell it.
Good Luck and I would be your friend.
2006-06-06 22:40:37 · answer #1 · answered by Mrs. Mac 4 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is best to try to be diplomatic with people. Consider first what you want to say to a person - how would you feel if someone said that thing to you? It is fine to be truthful but not in every single instance - for example - if someone has a body odor problem - you may feel that you are helping that person by mentioning it, but that person may feel VERY embarassed by the revelation. In some instances, the person may even deny that such a problem exists and that person will not wish to be around you any longer. If the body odor is truly that bad, then the person will have done you a favour.
If the person has only one instance of having this body odor problem, but the next time you meet this person, the problem is resolved, then it is better that you said nothing.
Not every single truth is going to set us free - and sometimes it is better to spare the person's feelings than to be open and honest in every instance.
2006-06-07 05:35:40 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I want an honest person once in awhile away from the people who just wants to please you. But sometimes people dont wanna hear the truth in return they get offended. You dont need to lie, i guess keeping it to yourself is better. If only necessary, then speak out what's on your mind. If you think it could benefit the person, why not. If they cant handle it, then its not your problem. Maybe there;s something wrong with your approach, that made it look like your criticizing them than suggesting something that can benefit them. To give you an instance, whenever my husband is getting lost and im with him inside the car, instead of saying "Why didnt you bring the Map with you?, Why don't we ask somebody?" i would say "Do you think we must bring a map just in case this happens to us again?" or "Do you think its time for us to ask somebody for direction" In this manner youre giving them the power to decide for themselves but unconsciouly suggesting what you think, not demanding what you think is right.
2006-06-07 05:43:38 · answer #3 · answered by Haynaku 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There's such a thing as being too honest. Nothing wrong with keeping things to yourself. People don't like ones who have, pardon the description...verbal diarhhea. You don't have to tell all, making something simple into something longwinded and detailed.
No lying involved.
2006-06-07 05:34:27 · answer #4 · answered by stacey 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh! man! What a question?
Be honest and sincere to your self.
But, not necessary to divulge everything, with everyone, all the times.
Maintain consistency and control your brain and tongue.
Why give everything away freely and without asking.
2006-06-07 05:38:29 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Then, that means those people don't understand the real you and don't know how to handle because they are not honset with themselves. Just pray that some people do come along that you can relate to.
2006-06-07 05:34:17 · answer #6 · answered by justbetweenus_us 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it is so simple think before you speak, ask yourself the following before you speak what are the conciquenes of me saying this, will it hurt this person? will i reck my friendship if i say this?
being spirtiual you could try going to a astrologer they may beable to tell you some situations you shouldn't get yourself into
2006-06-07 05:38:00 · answer #7 · answered by searchingjohn 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
u got to be reserved...spirituality is not everybody's cup of tea uu are not got to reveal everythin to everybody....u have to understand ur position in the society...then act accordingly...if u continue being a monk to everybody...u can never attain peace....get going...
2006-06-07 05:38:02 · answer #8 · answered by brainyguy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
be honest but make sure u dont hurt them....i would suggest know the person before giving him/her advice...orelse if u tell them something without knowing bout their personality then people will tend to misunderstand u....and b very careful to whom u r talking....dont b too frank. giving advice is ok...but make sure u dont interfere in their personal matters.
2006-06-07 05:34:44 · answer #9 · answered by Amukta 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
SIMPLE way is to tell the ASKER to get the information he/she needs from the person involved. Refuse to get sucked up.
2006-06-07 05:45:18 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋