I am so lost, I feel like I am just treading water istead of progressing in life. I am in a meaningless job, an unsatisfying relationship, and am so lonely I can't stand it, and yet, I have no idea how to fix it. My current boyfriend and I have been together for 10 months, and he is a good guy, but just has no motivation or drive to be or have anythign better in his life. I am not unhappy all the time, about 50/50. The good times are amazing and sometimes I feel like I love him so much my heart might explode, other times i can't stand to bein the same room with him. I dont leave because of many reasons, I care about him alot, i worry about what would happen to him if i left him (i did once before and he completely fell apart), I have a very real and very intense phobia of winding up alone in life and am afraid if i leave him I'll never find anyone else. On the other hand,I have feelings for someone else and am caught in this horrible sortof limbo. What can I do!?! someone please help!!
2006-06-06 21:06:36 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Wow, sounds like you have a lot going on in your life. Maybe you need to take some time and be by yourself in order to figure out what you want to do with your life. You have a heavy burden with your boyfriend and worrying about him falling apart once you leave.You shouldn't have to be responsible for keeping him emotionally stable, he does. Everyone is afraid of being alone in life, but your fear is causing you to not take risks in your life. Don't be afraid to just dive into something new, be it with your boyfriend, by yourself or with someone else.
2006-06-06 21:18:09 · answer #1 · answered by moma 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You hv also mentioned tht u hv a meaningless job. Do somethng to improve ur career. Concentrate more on it rather than thnking abt relationship. I thnk thngs will be better whn u get a "meaningful" job. All these thngs mite be a consequence of a an unsatisfied job.
Whn thngs get better in ur career point, u analyse urself whthr u luv him or not. If u dont luv him there is not point in continuing this relationship. Take away this inferior feeling like u dont get anyone else, if u leave him. If u r not satified with him thn its better to leave him. He might hv a problem initially, but time will erase all these.As we say, time is the best healer. Good Luck!!!
2006-06-07 04:22:39 · answer #2 · answered by Maria Abhi 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are not happy with him, you should leave him. You may feel guilty at first but he will pick himself up. It's not your fault he has no motivation.
Why should you suffer a never ending sadness and limbo as you call it? If you stay with this guy that is what will ultimately happen.
You will never be alone in life, there's a whole planet full of different people.
Good luck =)
2006-06-07 04:12:58 · answer #3 · answered by revoltix 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are unhappy in your current situation, change it.
Get a different job in your field, or go back to school for a career change.
If you are unhappy in your relationship, get out of it. Don't worry he will recover. If you have feelings for someone else, pursue them.
Nothing will change unless you make it happen. You can only be held back by yourself.
2006-06-07 04:15:54 · answer #4 · answered by sisbee8 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well, i think you are not that in love with your bf, its just that you dont want to feel alone (ooopps! sounds familiar to me! im experiencing this right now!). Have time to be alone for awhile to think things over, then DECIDE.
You said you are now attracted to someone else, then go, follow your heart my dear!
2006-06-07 04:43:22 · answer #5 · answered by HisAngel 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
give me your e-mail address and i'll send you some of my life, maybe after youll think all your troubles are nothing! which to me are compared to my history....
2006-06-07 04:13:39 · answer #6 · answered by kournikova57k 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋