for women who have had an abortion when you see babies in strollers or crying how do you feel?

Answer 1

I had my abortion at 16 years old. My child would now be almost 10 years old. My miscarried daughter would be 8 years old. My daughter is 6 years old, and I would have another baby (miscarried from a car accident at 17 weeks) the should be 2. Every time I hear a baby cry or I see a new mom and dad, I think of all three of my angels and how much I miss them. I loved each of them in their own way and there is nothing I would not do to have them back to tell them how much they are loved. I feel sad that I made the choice to have an abotion, I feel angry that I was the victim of domestic violence and lost my second child. I feel angry that I was in a car accident on my way to work to support my daughter when I hit and lost my fourth baby.

Answer 2

Before I gave birth I worried that I didn't have the mother instinct.

My emotional response to babies cooing or crying was never strong.

After I became a mother especially the sound of a child's cry or the look of a child crying could bring a sudden rush of tears sometimes I would struggle to keep from sobbing uncontrollably like when watching a movie with a child being abused of hurt in anyway

Having an abortion I felt many feelings I cried a lot some days mostly numb. empty, alone, even relief I don.t recall any one feeling just lots of different ones all mixed together.

Answer 3

If you have to go through an abortion for what ever reason it is best to come to terms with it as soon as possible. I had one and I decided in the waiting room that this was NEVER to be brought up again... so to answer your question when I see a baby I think how cute or what ever other people would think

Answer 4

There's times when it really bothers me and then there's times when I'm thankful I made the choice I did. Especially since the reason I became pregnant was from rape. I was actually a virgin at the time and just the emotional toll of that act, then ending up pregnant from it was more than I could handle. More often than not, I look at a baby and wonder how it would affect them to know that they were a product of violence with no idea of who their father was.

Answer 5

That would depend on your support system, your emotional stability, your age, at which stage you had an abortion. You cannot make a poll based on people who lead different lives to that of yours, who have different moral bases, who have all ahd different trials in their lives....

I had a pregnancy which was going well - until the 26 week scan. the fetus was compeltely deformed and had hydrocefales - water on the brain. at the time, there was a 95% chance of his survival. the decision we had to make was wrenching. my father sponsored a vacation to a summer resort for 2 weeks so we could talk it out. we went to endless doctors and specialists, genetic consultants, you name it! in the end, we decided to have the baby. i was ordered have a weekly scan to track the progress of the brain. at 30 weeks, it was dicovered that the brain was likely to explode upon birth, and that the heart had 4 holes. we then had no choice. for my life, we had to kill the fetus and deliver it dead. it was a very difficult time for us, most particularly since we had already made the difficult decision to keep him....

i dont think i could have gotten through that all without the support of my family and especially my husband. giving birth to an almost viable child made it allt he harder. for months, i could not speak to my best friend who had a baby the same day as my abortion. yes, it is hard to look at sttollers and diapers and pregnant people - becuase i was thinking all the time of what could have been.

you have to concentrate on something else. i got a job and made sure that i was very busy all the time - so as not to dwell on it. ijoined a support group so that i would have other people in the same situation to talk to. keeping busy is the biggest blessing. find yourself a hobby, new friends and most of all, a support system. talk about it - to yourself, to your diary, to yahoo answers :) dont worry - one day, you will be able to feel a part of society again..... good luck!

Answer 6

My abortion was due to fetal problems as well.. but that should not matter. Some days.. it doesn't bother me.. others.. I miss the baby he could have been. I lost mine when I was 5 and 1/2 months along.

Answer 7

My heart goes out to you. Please contact your local pregnancy support center. They can help you through this difficult time. There is help out there if you look for it. Help not so much regarding your question but help for the rest of the issues you are dealing with concerning the abortion. Sometimes one doesn't even realize that other issues are stemming from the grief of an abortioon.

Answer 8

it really doesn't have an afect on me since after my abortion i got preggers again and kept him this time

Answer 9

i feel like i should get another abortion

Answer 10

I think your being way too emotional, not others will think like you, I think this issue is really about you..