Ah! here's the deal...
I am good friends with this guy that I've known since three yrs. old.
When we were seven he moved on the otherside of america. We have been writing letters ever since (but now we email) and we do it so often that I kno him pretty well by now, even thou we're thousands of miles away :(. Sometimes we exchange pics and stuff. But he's also a writer and sends me his stories, which I read, even thou they're so freakin long. Recently he wrote a story about the failed attempts he's had in keeping a girlfriend. When I was reading I couldn't help but feeling really jealous. He's wonderful, but clearly I'm out of my brains, and he will end up settling and falling in love with a girl in his own state.I have trouble facing this, we have so much in common and are always there for eachother, and have been for the past 14 years.It freaks me out that I'm this attached, I can't stand to face the truth.And I'm afraid once he finds a very serious relationship, we might lose touch
2006-06-06 20:12:27 · 6 answers · asked by genuine♥ 3 in Social Science ➔ Psychology
His book is def not about me, he is almost a Senior in high school (I'm almost graduating one more week) but we're the same age. His story was very detailed, almost evolving around this one girl who I kno broke his heart and he still likes. She moved away to a diff state a couple of months ago but is coming back to visit or stay. He keeps me up to date on those things, I 'm sure he still REALLY likes her, and while he tells me this, I get jealous :(. I think I just want to get over him but I've been trying for over a year but he's always in my freakin head! It's rediculous! That's how I know I'm in love, but I could never even tell him I have a crush on him, I think it might scare him. After all, we haven't seen eachother in person since we were 7... so we're like really close pen pals. : / I think I need freakin therapy :[
2006-06-06 20:12:54 · update #1
i don't think you NEED therapy.
but i think that talking with someone who takes your concerns and feelings seriously would help a lot. Therapists are good at that. I think that talking to someone , probably older, could help you decide whether you want to keep you life on pause, and jealousy, or whether you would like to move forward.
But you don't sound psychotic. Not even neurotic.
2006-06-06 20:20:57 · answer #1 · answered by nickipettis 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No your not a psycho. Your story just means that you (may) have felings for your friend.
What you have to do is asses your feelings. Then if ever you are sure, then spill the beans. Tell him how you feel and you may never know. He might be feeling you to but sees you distant and thinks that you only see him as a friend. You mght get hurt if rejected but this will be better than wondering a lifetime of how things will turn out if ever you tell him.
This is just a suggestion. I too, have experienced falling for my friend who is miles away. He also love making poems about how he is so inlove of a girl that is near him and is with him all the time. I was about to give up telling him when a pal told me to give it a try. So when I finally spilled it, turns out I was the one in his poems. I was miles away yet he sees me near him, being there through his lowest points, emailing him almost every week etc.
I can't assure that what hapend to me can also happen to you but knowing is a hell lot better than wondering and asking yourself what if.
2006-06-07 05:16:53 · answer #2 · answered by coolblueacid 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
a lot of ppl are like this but u dont hav to be a person---or him--
who has only 1 mate/friend. a person could hav a girlfrend and other close frends
or u could just tell'm how u feel,maybe one of u could move
life is an adventure, hav some fun
2006-06-07 08:54:24 · answer #3 · answered by use 2b light 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, at least you're not a psycho. He's really close, and oftentimes people fall in love or have crushes on those who are really close to them. So I know you're not a psycho. lol. But iono what to do bout the boy. Really srry though =( hope it works out!!!
2006-06-07 03:20:24 · answer #4 · answered by lennyfoshenny 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just let him know that u really care for him and it'll dawn on him someday tht you might be interested in him and he'll let you know if he's on the same page as you are ... just keep in touch with him he'll come around if its meant 2 be.
good luck on that.
2006-06-07 03:23:04 · answer #5 · answered by skuxyliliex 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I need it desperately
2006-06-07 03:23:27 · answer #6 · answered by Maha Indra 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋