a bulged stomach.my bf has also left which means the child is fatherless .any one pls help
2006-06-06 20:09:42 · 24 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Adolescent
a bulged stomach.will there be a problemn while delivry due to my age?.one pls help
2006-06-07 23:26:33 · update #1
I was 16 when i got pregnant...i was still in high school....i kept going to school until i was 8 months pregnant...I gave birth and a month later i went back...i finished my high school...and I went to college..and finish...I did all this with the help of my mother ..she baby sat for me to finish school.(Today i have a good city job,pay is decent i have a car a nice apartment.)..so if anybody tell you, you're young to be having a baby don't listen to them.(we cannot cry over spilled milk...you are pregnant already , just do your best with what you have)..life still goes on...and my baby father even if he was around he didn't help ..financially or mentally...so i chose to take care of the baby on my own.( and i survived)..as long as you do something to better yourself...and provide for your baby you don't need the babies father...especially a looser that does not want to live to his responsibility..after the baby is born i suggest you go to plan parenthood..(for teens) clinic and ask for the IUD.( birth control)..protection...So keep your head up.girl and don't worry what everybody Say's...good luck!...PS i too wanted to keep the baby..and i had a nice big and healthy baby boy...so you can do it.....I'm rooting for you...YOU HAVE A GIFT FROM GOD...
2006-06-06 21:48:49 · answer #1 · answered by gengen 3 · 4⤊ 0⤋
You need to tell your parents that you are pregnant and that your ex-boyfriend left you. They will know how to take care of that issue. It could include suing him for child support, which at 14 years old, you will most definitely need.
While you cannot be forced into an abortion, even if you are a minor, you need to seriously think about what having a child at your age will mean. You will not be able to date as often as you wanted to before. Going out with friends will be out of the question. Your grades will tend to suffer as well, and you'd have to pick a college within reason when that time comes. I take it you are an upcoming freshman? But all of the things that I just mentioned will be nothing to the new life that will be 100% dependent on you until it's 18 and can do what it wants. You need to think seriously about this. Good luck in whatever you decide.
2006-06-07 01:50:59 · answer #2 · answered by dairyqueen_88 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ok, this is how it's going to be, people are going to call u a slut, and everything under the sun, they'll look down on u, and tease u. Because they see being pregnant as a weakening factor. How dare she get pregnant and she's so young. But u said one thing there. I want the baby, and in that statement ur so sure of urself, i know u can do this alone or otherwise. U have alot left to learn, not because ur 14 but because being pregnant and raising a child is a whole experience from growing up all by urself. U need to finish school. U need to get ur GED, or high school diploma, u need some college education, it might seem hard but it's what u need. If u want to provide for ur baby and show him or her that mommy loves you so much that she kept you, and kept her dreams of providing a better future for u and herself, u've already taught ur child a lesson most children take a long time finding out on their own, have goals and work to reach them. U don't have to do this alone, u can but it's not a must. Look up ur options.
2006-06-06 21:51:54 · answer #3 · answered by Pumkin 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have to keep going to school. This is the only chance you have to make sure you and your baby will have a good future. If you drop out you will be destined to working at places where you can barely make minimum wage, if even that. You have just made your life very difficult, but I guess you already know that. See if you can talk to other teen Mom's and find out how they handled it. You might want to get a part time job right now, you are going to need to pay for a lot of things, and start looking around now for options for child-care during school hours. I hope your parents will support you in this, but don't leave everything up to them. You take the reins and be responsible. If you are lucky enough that your parents will babysit for you while you are in school, make sure you are pulling your own share. And give up partying and all that, you're officially an adult now. Do yourself, your baby, your family and any future children you might have a favor, and don't get pregnant next time until you are married, have a home, and are financially stable. Good Luck.
P.S.- Even though the boyfriend took off, you need his finacial support. Take him to court and sue for child support. You will have to do a DNA test on the baby once he/she is born (it doesn't hurt the baby, they swab the inside of their cheek).
2006-06-06 23:17:34 · answer #4 · answered by nimo22 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi! There's no problem with continuing your school while being pregnant. It is even more inspiring to see someone who still continues her studies inspite of her pregnancy. It just shows that she's responsible and she's preparing for the future of her child. For the baby, since your boyfriend ran away from the responsibilities, I think you should talk to your parents so they can help you to settle an appointment with your boyfriend's parents and talk what's the best solution to your problem. Since you're under legal age, your parents will be the one who will handle your issues with your boyfriend and they will support you until you reach your legal age and you're capable of supporting your child. What you should do by now is to focus on your studies and on your baby's health. Just enjoy being a mom. Love your child the way your parents loved you. Your baby is a blessing from God. If you have more questions, send us your email at Reyes_Crueta@yahoogroups.com or you can also join us. Hope this simple advice will help you somehow.
2006-06-06 22:19:30 · answer #5 · answered by CaRoLiNe-GLeN 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should keep the baby if you think that you can handle it. There is a way to keep going to school with a stomach. Either talk to a teacher at school to see if they'll allow you to continue going there once you start showing or you could just transfer to a school that will allow you to continue your education while your pregnant. I think that it's great that you still want to go to school and have your baby. You seem very responsible for your age. Most girls tend to dropout once they find out that they are pregnant. Congratulations on the baby and I wish you the best of luck.
2006-06-06 22:09:56 · answer #6 · answered by cutet88 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dear gal, u can keep this baby!but u have to depend on ur parent ,they have the rite to stop u keeping ur baby... and there will be a big problm for u to continue studying as ur stomach will get bigger and bigger... u might be expel from school or u quit by urself!! And pls ALERT THE POLICE... Nab ur bf!! he being irresponsible!i look down on this type of guy!!! totally BASTARD!
PS: If u wan to take care of ur child ,pls be responsible , as u r a MOTHER now! No more fun anymore ,muz earn money for urself and ur child!!! Take cAre!
2006-06-06 21:51:49 · answer #7 · answered by ash_baby0910 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When the scholl finds out you are pregnant they can ask you to leave or transfer... they have that right.
Also unless you have a cheap full time day time babysitter continuing school after the baby is born will be diffficult.
When the baby is born you take that sperm donor of an exboyfriend to court and get child support...your child deserves it.
2006-06-06 21:34:07 · answer #8 · answered by geet840 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Gosh I'm 17 and I'm still a virgin. Sorry it's not my place to judge you but you should have been more careful! Actually there's many child care programs with moms in high school all you have to do is research! Is your mom willing to babysitt? I have many friends with babies and they all graduated or are graduating. It might be difficult but it takes time!
2006-06-07 05:23:53 · answer #9 · answered by Jasmyn C 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
OH hunni..... pls Im me at tanika_1984@yahoo.com or sulky_grump@yahoo.com.au. I would like to get to know you and talk you through it. I know what you are going through. And yes you can still go to highschool. And some schools will even let you bring your baby to school with you
2006-06-06 22:53:46 · answer #10 · answered by Elmo 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
go to police and tell your parents about you , i'm so sorry for you have your bf arrested the is a criminal offense having an under age sex , just seek your parents help and advice don't do anthing crazy
2006-06-06 23:28:07 · answer #11 · answered by lepactodeloupes 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋