i refusES ANAL SEX TO MY HUSBAND, HE GETS MAD BUT THAT IS A HURTING FEELING, I TRIED TO REVERSE IT AND HE LOOKS AT ME LIKE I AM CRAZY, HE SAYS IF I GUVE IT TO HIM MORE OFTEN HE WOULD BE GOOD.SOUNDS LIKE IF I DON'T GIVE THAT PART UP HE GOES AND GET IT ELSE WHERE. WE HAVE REGULAR BUT THA TI HATE AND HE GETS SO UPSET, IS HE GAY OR WHAT, I ASK THAT HE SAID NO. WE HAVE BEEN MARRIED 6 YEARS AND HE SAYS HE KNOW I WILL NOT GIVE THAT TO NO ONE. I DON'R CHEAT PERIOD SO IMADE THAT CLEAR THAT I DO GIVE UP THE OTHER EITHER.'''''''''' HELP
2006-06-06 19:24:53 · 14 answers · asked by girlmiddle 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
because most men are pervert :P
they only want to pleasure themselves more...
it's a total No to me, it has something to do with what you call respect! also, it's my own body & i love it even more...
any husbands who love their wives truly, they will respect their decision on that certain issue. anal sex doesn't count just to have a lasting relationship!
2006-06-06 21:56:58 · answer #1 · answered by i crave yours 5 · 8⤊ 16⤋
There are many reasons men want anal sex. First, it's tighter and feels better. It's taboo. So it may be a turn on to make a "good girl" into a bad girl. There are many psychological factors.
And many women like it.
But you are married so if he gets it outside the marriage don't be surprised. Don't complain either. Wives don't give their husbands what the need every day. And those men get it from somewhere else every day. Why are women suprised by this?
If you're not open to try why should he care?
You both married the wrong person maybe?
2006-06-06 19:41:07 · answer #2 · answered by GobleyGook 3 · 4⤊ 3⤋
It is a control thing. Anal sex is not that good, the pussy is way better. It is totally about your husband wanting to get you to do something that you do not want to do. And he is doing it for his own selfish and insecure reasons.
2006-06-06 19:31:08 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 4⤋
Must like it also,is that why you have to pick about something instead of answering the question,well men are sick,every time he wants it that way tell him he goes first,he should respect your decisions.
2006-06-06 19:34:33 · answer #4 · answered by CHELA 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
why dont u use proper words instead of using "that" and "this" and all that ****, i could understand the first part but wasnt to sure of the the last. and men do like anal sex.
2006-06-06 19:29:19 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
It's a change, when you tell some one you can't have something it just makes them want it more. I love anal for many reasons but my wife hates it but once in awile she will let me, so i haft to go slow tell she gets use to it. If that's something you don't wan't to do, then he should understand even after.....................6 years...................
2006-06-06 19:31:30 · answer #6 · answered by jeffrey R Martin 2 · 0⤊ 2⤋
try it. I recommend it. If guys like it, it must be good huh? just ask him to go slowly first and uses some lube. I dont think he's a gay either. why dont you try it?
2006-06-06 20:23:49 · answer #7 · answered by chasing rainbow 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
give it up many many many wiomen find anal pleasurable seems to me you married him, and its not really too much to ask isit
2006-06-08 04:47:28 · answer #8 · answered by Iwil21 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your husband and you need a professional, maybe he (or she) could help you. Your thoughts are normal, it´s your body.
2006-06-06 19:37:41 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should convience your husband, may he dont know that you are hearting if u can convience he may understood.
2006-06-06 20:43:17 · answer #10 · answered by F***** 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
when performed properly, it can be pleasurable for both parties. lots of foreplay, lube, and PATIENCE !!!! then again it just may not be your thing.experiment...use small adult toys to break you in.......good luck.
2006-06-06 20:48:58 · answer #11 · answered by Big Daddy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋