I just asked about having a kid at 14. I just wanted to let all yall know that i am pregnant!!! I am like not far along...what do i do?????
2006-06-06 18:22:16 · 18 answers · asked by Cisco_2010 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Adolescent
honey all i can say is pray. you need to tell your parents and the baby's daddy so you can decide what to do. if you can't raise it then maybe you should give it up for adoption. Good luck you will be in my prayers tonight.
2006-06-06 18:26:01 · answer #1 · answered by aprils242001 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have a lot of soul searching to do. First, you have to consider what the baby's dad will say. Next, what will your parents say? It is sooo hard to be a mom. And even tougher to be a good one. First thing, you need to see a Dr. If you dont have insurance, contact your local Planned Parenthood and they should be able to help you. Most states have programs in place to help people in your situation. I understand that most people do not want to consider having an abortion, but if that is something you are considering & you are not that far along, there is a pill you can take that will not put you thru the trama that an abortion would. If that is out of the question, next I would suggest giving the baby up for adoption. There are so many good people who cannot have babies. Most of these people already have homes, jobs and are financially able to take care of a baby. They can provide the baby with the life it deserves. If you insist on keeping the baby and raising it, I would join some teen parenting classes. You need to realize how hard this will be. You need to understand what you are giving up. 14 is so young. When your baby is 14, you will be 28. If he/she follows in your footsteps, you could be a grandmother before 30! You need to look at the long term. You are going to learn to drive after having given birth. I cant imagine that. You have until your mid 30's to have babies. You only have a few years of being a teenager and young adult. I know that you think you will be the exception, but I will tell you, my sister had her daughter at 15. LIfe has been hell for her. It isnt easy. As a teenager, you dont have the patience to deal with a fussy baby, you are going to want to spend your money on you. Not diapers and formula. You should consider talking to a school counselor and see if you can get into some ROP or Vocational Schools so you can have a decent job right out of high school and make a life for you and your baby. You cant rely on a guy to do it for you. Good Luck!
2006-06-06 19:32:26 · answer #2 · answered by B26 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well first of all stop all drinking, smoking drugs even OTC drugs if you take anyt of them espexially if you are planning on keping the baby and make a prenatal appt asap! Otherwise seek out a clinic to have it handled. HOpe you don't go that route but then again I can tell you at 30 having a baby it a full time 24/7 job. Your life as ytou knoow it is over. You have to make so many sacrifices it is very very hard. It is like working 2 full time jobs abd you get no weekends and no help or time off unless you have alot of family willing to help you. I use to want a baby at 14 and boy am I glad I waited. I had to give up one when I was 17 and I regreet it to this day but I am glad now I didnt have it cause it would have been very hard. Think hard about it and if you think you can't handle it do yourself and that poor baby a favor. Don't punish the child by not being able to give it a good stable and loving life if you can't do that. Good luck sweetie and god bless hope it works out for you.
2006-06-06 18:30:48 · answer #3 · answered by lilprincess2631 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Take a pregnancy test. Tell your parents either way, so that if you are not pregnant, they can get you birth control. Think long and hard about keeping this baby. You need to finish high school, go to college or tech school so you don;t end up in a dead end job and so you can support this child if you decide to raise it.Do not depend on anyone else for money. Remember, your decision does not affect just you-it affects that child you are carrying, the father, your parents, your siblings, your friends and the list goes on and on....
I thought you had a plan, if so, why are you asking what you should do next? See an OB!!!
2006-06-06 18:43:48 · answer #4 · answered by sweetiepie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should do whatever is best for you. I don't believe in abortions, but you (and the baby) comes first. If you are still in school, go ahead and complete school, and go on to college and/or get a good job that will support you and your unborn child. DO NOT let ANYONE talk you into doing something that you don't want to do, because in the end, you are the one who has to answer to whatever decisions you make, but hopefully, you'll make a good one. I know it may seem hard to deal with it, but trust ME, it can be done. So when it all boils down to it, KEEP IT!
2006-06-06 18:30:57 · answer #5 · answered by jmbabigirl 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Okay Ms. Cisco...
Chances are you're from the same circumstance that you find yourself faced with. This is in NO WAY a put down, but it is a theoretical guess.
If that's not the case touche`. If it is then we have a viable and amicable negotiating platform to start from. That does not mean because: "my mom had me when she was a teen so blah blah blah." What it does mean is my mom will know just what it is I'm about to go through with.
That being said, that's who you need to let know what's going on in your life; not just us complete strangers (smile). I know you're afraid. And once again if you've already made up your mind about what it is you're going to do and you just want someone to affirm your decision on this website...that's not fair to you, your parent(s), guardian, family and your unborn child.
Slow down, pray and ask God to soften your mom's heart for this information and by all means, please, please let her help you with this major accessment of your life.
Be Blessed, oh yes!! Know that God CAN bless your stress!!
2006-06-06 19:11:24 · answer #6 · answered by blakelycollierbrown 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First take a home pregnancy test or go to your doctor to be sure.After that you have several options. You can consider keeping the baby, adoption, or even abortion. You can either make your decision before or after you confront the father and tell your parents. It really depends on how much influence you want them to have over the decision making process.
2006-06-06 18:46:05 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you think that you're ready for a baby or you think that you can handle one then I would suggest you keep it. But if you think that you're not ready for the baby I would say to give it up for adoption. Have you spoken to your parents about the baby yet? If they'll help you during the pregnancy then you should just carry the baby for the 9 months and then give him/her up. Good Luck and remember what ever anyone says the decision is completely up to you.
2006-06-06 22:22:21 · answer #8 · answered by cutet88 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I just waned to say that I want a child to and I have wanted one since I was 13. I luv kids and I have always wanted one of my own. SO you arent bad for getting pregnant
2006-06-06 23:02:32 · answer #9 · answered by Elmo 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would talk to your parents and if they are understanding and caring like i am with my daughter they will be there and help you no matter what and yes you need to the father. He needs to know there are a few good guys out there
2006-06-06 18:29:15 · answer #10 · answered by calamia 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋