Me and my hubby have separated, it has only been siince Mother's day, I felt we needed space because he is never home, he spends time with his son 18 who they both smoke together, bad example, i mention that to him but he feels thats there business. I laways ask to spend time with him but he says he is always busy, he had moved his son in without telling me that was wrong, He feels as a Wife i ask for too muc, we have been together 6 years and i have given him so many changes to change himself, I am a christian he is not. i've tried couseling, but all he do is complain but do not make a change, he is now out the house and i ask for usa to goto couseling again he refuse and did not come, i 've done my part. he said he don't want to come back because he was busted for maybe being accuse of kissing my niece and he was seen by my daughter, so now he says he can't face us anymore because she liede and the niece( who is 14) I still love him but he we need Major couseling if we get back.
2006-06-06 18:20:32 · 7 answers · asked by girlmiddle 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Honey I feel your pain but if you asked him to go because you needed space, you got what you asked for. I don't mean to sound unkind but he it sounds like he is showing you in every way that he wants this relationship to be over.
2006-06-06 18:26:02 · answer #1 · answered by yeller 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ok, I don't know where to begin here. First of all, let him go, if it's meant to be it will all work out. But I'm not to sure I would want him back. I mean, if he indeed was kissing your niece,who is 14, he needs more then marriage counseling he needs therapy, or jail. Why would your daughter lie about something like this? She wouldn't. Please, leave well enough alone. He is obviously afraid to come back, which I don't blame him. If I was the 14 year olds mom he would have hell to pay. If he wants to hang out with his teenage son, you can't blame him, it is his son. You had to know he had a child before you got into the relationship. I do agree that he should not have moved the son in without talking to you first. Now that he is gone and doesn't answer your calls, he most likely doesn't want to continue this relationship any longer. My advise is get an attorney, and quick. God Bless and Good Luck
2006-06-07 01:34:06 · answer #2 · answered by rqtpie19 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My heart goes out to you. I think you may feel a little left out because of the Father and Son relationship. I experienced a similar situation in my life with my father-in law. You cant change your spouse only GOD can. By your own admission you are still in love with him. Pray and ask GOD for what you want. Be a good wife.
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2006-06-07 01:45:06 · answer #3 · answered by machelle6691 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Give him the space he needs and you find some counseling and help and start to heal from the pain. I am so sad that you are saved and he is not ... This causes alot of pain and suffering in a marriage. May i suggest you buy the book the power of a praying wife by stormie ormartian it is a great book and they sell it at walmart and at book stores... Make sure to read this book and pray pray pray! I am also here to talk whenever you need to! I am here as friend and a listening ear. You also need to forgive him and wait for God to send him back to you and if this never happens then trust God for your furture! Let God become your husband and friend during this time. There is a website at http://www.marriagetoday.org that may be helpful as well and you can email Jimmy and Karen Evans for pray and help during this time. I also run a list called lets talk marriage at http://groups.yahoo.com/group/letstalkmarriage and i would love to have you join us there and my yahoo id is ladyhewitt_1 if you ever would like to IM me too! Hope this helps you some!
2006-06-07 07:32:50 · answer #4 · answered by Lady Hewitt 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to go to Jesus with that question. You have taken all the steps you can. If your husband is in denial about the situation then thier is nothing more you can do. He has to be the one to step up an receive the treatment need if he wants to salvage your relationship. But again he has to do this and if he doesn't move on...It is senseless to worry about someone that does not take your feelings into perspective. Let go and Let God
good luck to you
2006-06-07 01:28:44 · answer #5 · answered by Mrs.Smith 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Listen sweetie. I am a christian too!
It's a consequence of marrying a non christian. In the bible it says not to be yoked with non believers. See what the price is for that?
Counseling is needed. Prayer is needed.
Smoking with Son is a very bad infleunce.
I will pray for you sweetie, You deserve better!
God Bless!
2006-06-07 01:25:15 · answer #6 · answered by inthisskin22x 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
dear if you are christian or not does not do anything with this...
he could be christian and does the same thing... I would just ask for divorce... good luck
2006-06-07 02:12:19 · answer #7 · answered by Me 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋