my husband sneaks around and watches porn and u know! he tells me that he's not but i know that he is how can i make him stop? i'm not ugly i'm in shape i have a pretty face.i never withhold from making love.
2006-06-06 18:13:01 · 9 answers · asked by me 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Guys like to look at porn regardless of how much sex they get and the attractivness of their partner. As long as it doesn't detract from your sex life it shouldn't be a problem.
2006-06-06 18:17:22 · answer #1 · answered by tisbod5 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ok one day when you know hes gonna be home any second , go get all dolled up and put some high heels and porn on and just get it on with your bad self , and when he comes home , he will want you more than ever catching you like that ! or you can say no no that is your time and he will just have make do watching you watching porn .
2006-06-07 01:48:32 · answer #2 · answered by insertstrawhere 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think this is a part of what has happened in today's world, with computers, easy access to Internet sites with porn, all of it. Some will say the technology has advanced so much and it is a better world and all, but I don't know. I remember when my Dad hid his porn magazines under his mattress and we four girls found them! LOL I think honestly, it is the nature of guys to have that curiousity no matter how great you are, good looks, good in bed, all of it. I'm not saying I agree with it all, just saying that it happens! I honestly am more worried about our 15 year old who now has discovered the porn sites and so we now have put parental controls on it as well, I know they too have normal hormonal stuff, but don't think we have to hand it to them on a silver platter right? Just realize all the good things you have in your marriage, remember who is with each day, who he does things with, etc. Things you'll be fine, hang in!
2006-06-07 02:24:28 · answer #3 · answered by Laurie S 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
WHY would you want to stop something of human nature???
I look at mags with my guy. We talk about what interest him, the positions the photos are taken in, what they are wearing that he thinks is sexy and he loves it when I agree...and it makes for an awesome turn on, he can look all he wants and as long as he only touches me...bring on the mags!!!
It is a natural thing for guys to look at porn, they have been doing it for years. It may not seem right for some, but it's true so face it.
For those who don't:
Surprise him by telling him you want to look at a mag or movie with him...we know what womens bodys look like, it shouldn't bother you. Ask him what he likes, it could be a turn on for him to share his feelings about whats in those mags/movies/pics with you, you never know til you try.
Few women have the self confidence to agree with me. It has NOTHING to do with HOW YOU look.....IT HAS TO DO WITH HUMAN NATURE, men are visual.....there is nothing to fear from porn reguardless of how many porn pics are out there, men are still going to need there partners to love and to share ideas and feelings with.porn is not going anywhere, so share it or grin and bear it!
2006-06-07 01:58:59 · answer #4 · answered by rdhedhottie 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Seek counseling and ask him to please get rid of the porn ... You really do not want your children exposed to it either. Since you never withhold sex from him then try spicing it up and making things a little different and new with him! He also may need counseling if he is addicted to porn as well!
2006-06-07 07:27:28 · answer #5 · answered by Lady Hewitt 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't listen to people who say Porn/Masturbation is normal! It's not. It will ruin your marriage/relationship. You need to talk to him bout his addiction, and that it's not right.
Here's a wonderful site to make you learn that Porn/Lust/Masturbation is wrong..
http://www.porn-free.org/
Sit down with him and read it.
It's not you either sweetie...Its not your fault your husband watches porn.
It's him, Sex Addicts do this out of either growing up with it, Abused, Depressed, Revenge...It's just like Drug/Alchohol. Addictive.
I'll pray for you!
2006-06-07 01:36:00 · answer #6 · answered by inthisskin22x 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The real problem isn't the porn its the lie....... you need to have a straight up no accusatory talk with him about why he would lie to you regarding it.
Then loosen up and buy some fishnets,, surprise him and join in some fun teasing him sexually while he watches it,,, you may be really surprised to find his interest quickly turns to you. I hope you are !
2006-06-07 01:20:00 · answer #7 · answered by yeller 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe he is watching some of the gang bang movies you used to make when you were single. then it wouldn't be so bad. by the way, can i have your autograph?
2006-06-07 01:44:33 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
join him.
2006-06-07 03:35:38 · answer #9 · answered by chasing rainbow 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋