At 1st he was wonderful and now he doesnt leave the tv or the corner seat of the couch.He claims his back hurts too bad to go do anything,but he gets boo koos of pain meds.He wants me to stay home with him,but im bored and really would like to do something with my life besides sitting on the couch! Help!
2006-06-06 18:01:11 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Other - Society & Culture
He uses his hurt back on the sex thing SOMETIMES,so that backfired to an extent.Hes just very unmotivated,maybe even depressed.He doesnt realize that I am able to plan activities around him that will not put him in danger of hurting his self further.
2006-06-07 01:02:16 · update #1
Leave him there. Leave him there and go out and do your thing. There really isnt any answer to dealing with a lazy husband, except NOT dealing with him. If he sees you out with friends, out with co-workers, or just out having fun, he will eventually feel left out! Desire is often the best medicine!
2006-06-06 18:06:46 · answer #1 · answered by JustJake 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Girl. You really sound like you need some help. Ok, try some psychology on him. Does he respond favorably to absence of sex? If so, try turning his complaints and excuses around on him. If he says his back hurts, try to lure him into the bedroom and use body language that makes him think hes about to get some. But don't let it get that far. once you have him in the room, get him to lay on his stomach on the bed. Proceed to give him a massage. If he says he feels better or wants to take things further, then make him put sex on layaway. So to speak. Now that his back problem is all better, he should have no excuses. If sex threats don't work, try ignoring his needs. If he is sitting there watching TV and says, "honey will you get me a :beer/sandwich/toothpick/batteries for the remote, or whatever, give him an excuse why you can't. "i'm sorry honey, my nails are wet/my feet hurt/my back hurts, whatever you can come up with. He'll make due without your caring for a while. But hang in there. Soon he'' ll begin to wonder what's up and you can educate him on the problem you are having with him. If he values his happiness, he'll want to make you happy. You are Woman, let us hear you roar! Note: lay off on nagging, they learn to tune it out. Instead, shower him with a pleasant voice that you normally would not use and trust me, he'll be curious.
2006-06-06 18:21:03 · answer #2 · answered by rsn_hes_upallnite 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I have heard the bad back excuse so much it makes me want to puke. Give him an ultimatime. Get busy or you will find a real man. Even if his back is really that bad he can still make a living on his butt doing SOMETHING!!
2006-06-06 18:06:39 · answer #3 · answered by ? 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get the dogs and firehoses on him!!! Atleast it will be funny to watch him sqwirm and beg for you to stop. Tell him you wont stop unless he stops being a lazy SOB!
2006-06-06 20:24:28 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
it`s ok as long as he had a good financial to support both of u...there`s nothing wrong for a couple who really love each other to be together all the time..unless either one is unfaithful..
2006-06-06 18:10:38 · answer #5 · answered by Shamo 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
ever thought the pain is real...and he's not lazy but the drugs make it worse? your life is real, so let him know he must understand you must do things...if he hurts ( like me ) he'll wait....
2006-06-06 19:51:00 · answer #6 · answered by Mad Max 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
when you figure it out let me know
2006-06-06 18:03:57 · answer #7 · answered by woodyswoman33 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Don't feed him, he'll get up. lol
2006-06-06 18:05:11 · answer #8 · answered by TexasSweetie 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
HA GOOD LUCK
2006-06-06 18:05:48 · answer #9 · answered by twysty 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋