she is in a bad relationship. I feel like we are getting very close again. What worries me is if she is using me to get out of the bad relationship. Am I wrong for wanting a married woman and is she using me??? help!! i need advice.
2006-06-06 17:49:29 · 11 answers · asked by mmhmm 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Dude, forget that she is a friend, ex, whatever. You know as well as I do that anyone will only paint a picture that he or she wants you to see.
Even if she is completely telling the truth, you know as well as I do, that most people will only leave a relationship if they have someone to run to. You do not want to be that guy. If this dude is truly as bad as she says he is, she will leave him and divorce him anyway without you being involved. At that time, you and her can give it a shot.
Listen up! If she does leave him for you, while you are plotting behind his back, are you going to be able to trust her ever? Come on, if she would do it once, I dont care how money you are, it COULD happen again, couldn't it?
Also, do you want the responsibility of her running to you from her husband? Not only will you be in a messed up situation, you will have just jumped in to a pretty deep relationship.
If you really care for her, want the best for her and could possibly see yourself with her in the future, DO THE RIGHT THING> Tell her that you will not be a part of this until she is done with her man, because you are not "That GUY!"
2006-06-06 18:06:17 · answer #1 · answered by Cing 4 · 5⤊ 0⤋
Yes and yes. She could be using you but most importantly YOU DONT WANT A WOMAN WITH BAGGAGE! If her marriage is not working for her then why do you think a relationship with you would work? Stay away from her. Stop talking to her. There is a case in Tx where a woman SUED the woman who got her husband to divorce her and the wife WON the suit against the mistress. Her husband could go into a rage and beat you up or KILL you! Or he could sue you or harrass you. She has a lot of baggage. Do not get involved with any married women because that is a LEGAL binding contract that she entered. FInd a single woman with no baggage.
2006-06-06 17:58:14 · answer #2 · answered by Educated 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I've been married two times earlier than, so I do not care if I do not marry once more, however I may not say that I "may not" marry once more...it isn't a precedence in any respect, however I might like to have any person to proportion my Life with... I've been unmarried for decades now (the bigger aspect of the beyond eleven yrs) so I'm comfy with it simply being me, if that is how the leisure of my lifestyles is going...I have peers and household and pursuits, so it is under no circumstances dull (however oftentimes it will get lonely)...
2016-08-20 09:37:16 · answer #3 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think if she's really in a loveless r-ship she will get out of it. And if she really cares about u she will tell her hubby that she doesn't want to be wit him and come 2 u.. U really can't tell if she's sincere over myspace. U need to talk 2 her about what's going between ya'll and where things are headed, that way u'll know. If she's tellin u that she wants to be wit u but continues to stay wit her hubby she's prolly playing u! Good luck if this is really what u want!
2006-06-06 17:57:07 · answer #4 · answered by ANC_40 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Don't let her use you as transition man unless you are willing to be used and lost.
People grasp at anything rather than do the work involved to get out of a relationship and build their own happy life.
If she is on my space chances are your not the only dollar bill she is chatting up.
2006-06-06 17:57:31 · answer #5 · answered by yeller 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
it is wrong to be even talking to her. why not let her relationship work itself out. you have to stay out of it to give it a chance. you are the bad guy right now, even though it is a bad realationship. she needs to figure out what she wants to do and see if it works out with her hubby. you cant be involved though. it cant work out if it is going to work out if you are there. let her fiugre things out and when she is done then talk to her. if she is being abused then help her get out, but dont do it so you can be with her do it because you want to help. make sure she is sure what she wants to do because she will blame you if you made her make the decision.good luck.
2006-06-06 17:59:19 · answer #6 · answered by Christina 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Freddy, your ex-girlfriend may just feel really comfortable talking to you.(venting about her relationship) Just be a good listener to her. Don't try to re-kindle any old flames. Let her know that you respect her as a person and her marriage.
2006-06-06 18:06:04 · answer #7 · answered by machelle6691 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
she just wants to flirt, n married women like to think that they r still likable eventhough they r married...esp with their ex's now u need to get out there before u got caught up in her fishing lure n be a loser in the end...
2006-06-06 18:51:54 · answer #8 · answered by ♥♥♥H뮧hË¥™♥♥♥ 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Don't put yourself in the position to be the other man.
2006-06-06 17:58:35 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
find a single woman. where's your man's ego?
2006-06-06 20:44:50 · answer #10 · answered by chasing rainbow 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋