my fiance is a divorcee. our wedding is in few months time. sometimes i think will i be happy with him n will he be happy with me. or will his past haunted him. his first marriage was love marriage but end up in divorce coz his ex cheated him (hide major info). how to manage someone with a past like this? how to lead a happy marriage life. need some advice from experts who have married to a divorcee since this is my first wedding. Pls help
2006-06-06 17:31:38 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
It depends on what her cheating was, you might want to add to your post regarding that.
If there are no children involved then it should not be a haunting situation, he should not have to have any contact with her, but you sound very unsure of him and that in itself is a good reason to postpone marraige until you have more time to feel how things are between the two of you.
2006-06-06 17:35:05 · answer #1 · answered by yeller 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am not married to a divorcee but I do know that you 2 will be happy as long as both of you want it to work! It's not easy but It is worth the fight at the end! His past is always going to be a part of him...he has to deal with it and so do you! Except him for who and what he is not for who he was married 2 or what he felt after the hurt...
2006-06-07 00:37:15 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you feel uncertain that you know how your marriage will be, perhaps it would be wise to postpone the marriage for a bit. Don't rush into something if you're not sure. It is not your responsibility to change him. Obviously for your marriage to work, both he and you need to make an effort to be understanding towards each other and to move forward from this point rather than dwell on the past. If you feel you see signs of him clinging to feelings regarding his past marriage, then it would seem he is not ready to move on to a new one.
2006-06-07 00:36:37 · answer #3 · answered by Raven Ardent 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Marriage is a lot of work. You need to sit down and write a list of the pros and cons. Weigh them out and you alone can only be the one to decide. It is nice that you are trying to get advice but take it all with a grain of salt. Everyone is different and everyone reacts differently to each situation. No matter what you decide to do...best of luck to you.
2006-06-07 00:36:16 · answer #4 · answered by student 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You just have to believe you'll be happy, it looks to me like you're willing to work hard for your marriage which is good by itself. I hope you live a long and happy life
2006-06-07 00:35:29 · answer #5 · answered by annie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he is able to walk away from a life committment. Ponder this. Even if cheating is involved. I don't want to be known as wive number two.
2006-06-07 00:35:57 · answer #6 · answered by xx_muggles_xx 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him to put it to the past u guys r starting a new life u do not nead to put that in front of u
2006-06-07 00:34:44 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Happiness is a state of mind.
2006-06-07 00:33:41 · answer #8 · answered by ☼Jims Brain☼ 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
anyone with baggage is hard, but you need to be especially sensative to his past situation. it won't be easy and i bet he carries a lot of the hurt with him.
2006-06-07 00:34:53 · answer #9 · answered by embigguns 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
dont worry about the past : look to the future it will be great
2006-06-07 00:35:42 · answer #10 · answered by steve k 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋