I want a kid but i am only 14 what do i do?

Answer 1

Well as a mother of 3 i would suggest waiting as being a parents not easy even when your older and have had some experences. finish school for one if you really want a child you will have to provide for it. I'm not sure why you think you need a child at 14 but if your wanting love trust me they take more love at first then they give. If you just love kids (like i did) try volentering at a local hospital on a kids unit or a day care. Im sure if this is something that would intrest you. A few phone calls could lead you in the right direction. Or offer a parent of a young child to play with the child why she gets some things done. any way you go you will do your self a favor by waiting. as well as learn something from the experiences. also the risk of having a kid at your age is bad for you but can be deadly for both you and a baby. So if your really wanting to be a good parent looking at the pros and cons would be a good idea.

hope this helps.
jen

Answer 2

You should not want to have a baby at this age. First, if you are sure that you want a baby then you need to see how it takes things you enjoy doing away. Also, I do think that you should wait for sex too. You probably have dreams and important goals to achieve, so it is best for you to wait until you are in your 20's. Talk to a social worker or parent about this, because this is a major problem. Just think, you are a baby who wants a baby herself. NO! This is the worst mistake that you will make. I know this because I was 13 when I had my first child, and I could not do anything anymore except devote all of my time to this kid that I found out later that I did not even want. It destroyed my life basically then on. Even though I did graduate from high school and went on to college, I don't really have much time for other things except for school and my kids. I really recommend that you talk to a professional about this. Once they tell the outcomes of having a baby young, then you will most likely change your perspective on this.

Answer 3

Wait another 15-years. LOL

Kids are A LOT of responsibility. You may think that you can take care of the kid, which I'm sure you're capable of doing, but what about working, going to school, and paying all the bills? Kids are EXPENSIVE.

Answer 4

In many cultures, young girls often get married and have children by the ripe old age of 13. in others, marriages are arranged and wedding take place as early as 5 yrs old, with consumation of the marriage waiting until the brides menstrual cycle starts. Are you part of these and other cultural diversity marriages?
If you are, then it is important that you follow you cultural heritage, but if you are from America, with your cultural values similar to American Values then NO, you do not have the right.

Do not misunderstand, you have the "right" in this country to do anything you want, of course there are consequences for bad choices. But, if you are mature and responsible, then you already know the answer to your question; I am too young.
Think about it, you get pregnant, carry the child for 9 months, push it out, or have a "C" section, and then take the baby home, where you have feeding every 2-3 hours, around the clock, change about 25 diapers a day, your boobs hurt, your private area hurts, and you want to go to the movie with your friends. What do you do? Ask your parents to babysit, or if that doesn't work, take the baby with you. The latter is not real welcome for long by your friends, and frankly, do you want your baby out late, around a bunch of loud and boisterious teenagers, or does it matter to you.
If it does matter, then you realize that maybe you are a bit young to raise a child, and if it doesn't matter, then you are too irresponsible to be a mother at 15.
Do you see the difference?, there is none. 15 years old is a great time in your life, and a baby, the very thing you may profess to want, and to love will be the one who pays.
It will either be with babysitters all the time, or it will be around when you go out and each scenario is not welcoming to a baby or to being a responsible parent.

True Story:
My neice got pregnant at 13, had the child, a boy, Joshua.
Lived in her dad's garage for about 7 months, mattress on the floor next to a harley. Couldn't go to school, no one to watch the baby.
At 17 got married, had another child, (different father), moved into a mobile home, (old one)Found jobs at gas station, and Micky "D's", and got welfare assistance to help feed and pay for babysitters.
At 19 marriage over. Now single, with 2 young children.

Get job with collection agency, but can't afford day care, because welfare wont help as the laws on the books require fathers to pay child support and since her ex-hubby is not working and the father of the first child is in prison, she doesn't qualify. So, she has her oldest, 6 watch her youngest, 2 while she works. When oldest is not put into school, the DFS, (dept of family services) goes out to house, finds very young children alone.
Neice, now has to go to court to get kids back, she does with very strict restrictions on what she has to do. She does them, and finds that she has lost her small apt, lives in her car, and the kids are forced to wait in the car while she is working. Went from bad to worse.
Finally, she makes enough money to rent a dump, moves in, and meets yet another guy.
At 24, she finds she is pregnant again with #3 (different father) and he is now going off to prison in Louisana for 5yrs.
So now at 30, she is single, with 3 kids, the oldest 17 and each have different fathers. She has a 9th grade education, still can't get any child support, which makes her ineligable for welfare, and works 8-10 hrs a day to rent her little apt and feed her kids.
Every where she goes, she is faced with a social stigmata that she is of lower class, that she is inferior as a worker, a mother, and a person. She looks 50 and her oldest is now pending a criminal trial for armed robbery. He was hungry.

Get the picture?

Answer 5

Volunteer as a big sister or at the boys and girls club or find a day care center where they might hire you to work part time.

Then wait ten years until you are both emotionally and financially prepared for raising children...with a very high preference toward having a commited partner to help.

Answer 6

You should probably take a look at what happens to 14 year old mothers. This isn't a dream or fairytale, this is reality. Start thinking realistically. You're thinking of yourself, and if you did get pregnant, that would be incredibly selfish to the baby.

Answer 7

Actually no one will be able to convince you or talk you out of something like this. You've probably already made up your mind that you're going to have intercourse(or you're already active sexually).

What it sounds like is you're looking for someone or people to affirm your position or stance on something that is clearly way over your emotional, physical, psychological, economical, responsibilities and accountabilities.

You're basically searching for attention and love. A little baby is self-centered, helpless, egostical and incapable of giving you that type of affirmation and reciprocation. That's what we have to give them.

If you have to ask what should you do...your "kid" doesn't even have a solid foundation to start with, much less continue into adulthood. Oh yeah!!! You have to see this individual into adulthood...much like yourself, you know?? Like this is an adult decision, why do you need my input over what you're going to do with your body??

THAT alone should tell you something about yourself. In the words of India Irie's song: "Slow down baby you're moving too fast...you're about to wreck your future dealing with your past." Your past being this "kid" you're about to bring into this life.

Be Blessed. Peace Out and take a chill pill jill.

Answer 8

i wanted a baby when i was 14 too! i was smart enough to know that it would be way too hard and i would miss the best years of my life having fun. you have so much trouble to get into besides getting pregnant! go get into some fun trouble! i waited till i was over 30 and it was well worth the wait...trust me! you will be able to deal with a child more when you are older.

Answer 9

Duh!!!!..seriously wait......do u have any sort of plan that u can actually raise this kid w/>??????/ probly not since you are ONLY 14.........and are you just going to pick some random guy who will probly NOT help you out at all......think about it...that would be a bad choice..wait until you are older and more mature and responsible..have fun while you can..well I mean while you are young!!!!!!!!!!!.............

Answer 10

wait!!! in the meantime you would make a great big sister - you could "adopt" a little sister through the bigbrother/ big sister program, or you may be able to volunteer at a hospital. I would really suggest spending some real time with an infant before having one on your own