i am married with a son. My husband and i have ome problems, but i sincerely love him with all my heart. i know that i can't love the other guy like this because my husband gave me my son, but at times, i've wanted to just say to hell with everything just for the other guy. i feel bad, but i want the other guy soooo bad! i've never slept with him and had the chance, but i said no.what's wrong with me? this situation affects my life horribly and there is not a day that goes by that i don't think of him; i even have dreams of us making love. what should i do? my husband knows i've been in love with him for some time, but insists we stay together nd that he'll be the perfect man. problem is, when we break up, he makes a lot of promises, but never keeps them. he's a nice guy but i have to deal with this on my own-someone please help!!!!
2006-06-06 17:13:54 · 13 answers · asked by sweetcheeks 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Forget the other guy....he's a jerk for going after a married woman. You know what will happen...you will leave your husband for him, spend a few great weeks together, then he will get sick of you and dump you. This guy is a loser...a marriage wrecker. He won't think twice about moving on to the next woman.
2006-06-06 17:24:13 · answer #1 · answered by NightHowler 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
depending on how long you and your husband have been together we seem to find fault in one another, sometimes the things we use to hear is what we might be thriving for again. do remember one thing " what made you fall in love with your husband' sometimes the relationship needs alittle repair, it takes two to make it all work. Then when were down and out here comes someone attractive and we hear the things we need to hear but in all reality didnt your husband do that too at one time and i do believe that works both ways. The rut of a relationship, if you look deep into your soul and weigh out the situation it might not be as bad as it feels. Psst! we all have fantasy's! If you think you have room for repair try a marriage counselor as a mediator..........it helps! Good luck to you
2006-06-06 17:27:41 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You will have a lot of problems with the new man because of the guilt you will feel, also ALL relationships have issues. Why would you be any happier with another man??. Also you will have ruined your childs life and the man you commited to in marriage. You know the right answer, re-connect with YOUR HUSBAND. Spoil him and do favors for him with out expecting anything in return. What kind of man is your "friend" anyways? Certainly NOT a gentleman if he is seeking love from a married woman.
2006-06-06 17:21:26 · answer #3 · answered by dbzgalaxy 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
dont let sex be everything with this guy and you because if you have the chance with this other guy it may not be just what you thought seek counseling w/your husband to death do us part right now its just a phase w/the other guy and well if u believe in god just ask god to take this temptation out of your heart my husband had an affair i didnt want to see him leave thought i accepted his apology and then i went out with a guy who i felt the same way as you felt about your friend and now im like o my goodness cant believed i wasted my time even the sex was horrible its like he didnt know what to do i couldnt wait to get home to my husband i thought about the other guy sometime but honey i rather be with my husband he is not abusive very loving sorry at times but you know the sex is good when im mad and better when im happy and the other stuff is just small stuff u deal with no one is perfect and i dont know to many people who want to be alone and remember what you dont want or what u dont do another woman will just to get your man because its a shortage of men hell if you fantasize about your friend while doing your husband that work just your little secret hell i did that too for a while but rather have bad times w/my husband then have good times by myself and i didnt need counseling
2006-06-06 17:30:38 · answer #4 · answered by jcleann13 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm no expert,but it sounds to me you have made your choice on what you want.Your with your husband,right. You know the old saying "the grass always looks greener on the other side"This is probably true in this case.Maybe your missing something in your life and this other guy is filling that space?Your husband wants to stay with you even though he knows your in love with another man?Wow.That must be love.Think things through and don't make any haste decisions. Good luck!
2006-06-06 17:21:59 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm truly sorry u and your husband are having problems but u made a commitment to your marriage and should try your best to keep it, if it doesn't work out you'll be able to move on. but definitely don't cheat you will never be happy with your husband after that. stay strong best wishes
2006-06-06 17:22:14 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
how do you comprehend the guy you spot in avatar or what they say is definitely data of what they are? i presumed i fell in love with somebody on the cyber web, so i comprehend its possible. besides the undeniable fact that it relatively is quite confusing for mixxed faith marriages. and if one is atheist and the different is religious, that much tougher. mixxed religions have been forbidden by technique of God, and because solomon married unusual different halves, women human beings of alternative worldwide places, he additionally geared up up idols unto those different fake gods. God mentioned Solomon did evil by technique of doing this. now paul talked abut atheists and believers being married, many times if one will become a convert, paul concluded that if the convert believer loves the spouce the spouce is made clean by technique of the believer. yet it is the exception to the guidelines and actuality. IMO
2016-11-14 07:37:45 · answer #7 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
your husband should want you to be happy and respect that...and appearantly being with him is not making you happy...basically what i'm trying to say is follow your heart...seriously!!!!do you love the other guy? if so then go for it!!!!
2006-06-06 17:17:17 · answer #8 · answered by tampica 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get professional help. Your issues are too involved to give a simple answer too.
2006-06-06 17:16:26 · answer #9 · answered by jumpingrightin 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ur the one person wko knows abt u better than other so better 2 take own desision
2006-06-06 17:22:04 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋