I m overseas after my fiancee,trying to please her to come home.We'd disputes,sorted,but she's afraid to come

Question

I am overseas after my fiancee, trying to bring back home. We live in jt.family,she is not comfortable to live together.In past she does not came with me,but came afterwards.We had some disputes & she keeps mentioning the past things.We had sorted out that,but the memories keep following her.She has lied to me in many things,insulted me,even put me in trouble,threanted me & keeps putting conditions, if I want her back home. I am ready to accept all, but in end,she says she's not coming home. Though she has come afterwards 3 times in 3 years,but once she gets home,she does not want to come back. She is my first love & I m not. I cannot forget her. We have a big age difference, but I have not consider about that before. I dont expect anything from her, just I want her back home & I plan to spend happy life, but she has made me run everywhere after her. Please provide me your best of your advice. Should I leave her or go on keep trying, like I have done for a couple of years. Thanks.

Answer 1

leave
you have little self respect for yourself and it should by the way you bow down to her and give in despite her flaws
you find out if you are a decent, you will be in demand by many and you CAN have your choice and put up with less aggrivation from those who are not mature enough, culture differences or not

Answer 2

Make sure she gets help for the pain of the past and maybe she is afraid because she does not want this relationship to be a hurtful and destructive one. Talk with her and see where she is at with things. Give her the space she needs to heal and then once she heals and can start to get past things then maybe she will want to come back to you some day. I wish you both the best!