I was raped what do i do?

Question

I am so tired of holding this in. I dont know what to do i got raped about 3 weeks ago it was horrible i wont let any guys get near me hardly. I have stopped eating entirely, ive lost over 15pounds in 2 weeks and have been very antisocial which isnt like me at all. What do i do, i feel to ashamed to tell my parents i dont want them to know but my rapist is still out there and i know i should call the police asap but i just dont want my parents to know... HELP ME!

My friends and family have noticed a sudden change in behavior and eating habits they are worried

Answer 1

you need PROFESSIONAL help. you need to see a doctor to see if you are physically ok and they can recommend a counselor.

Please seek real help immediately!!

Answer 2

I know it's easy for me to say, but try not to be scared.. You are in a very tough situation and you need help!
Firstly, you ABSOLUTELY HAVE TO TELL YOUR PARENTS!!! it's a must, because no matter what, they are there for you and they will help you because they love you very much, they will do whatever it takes to help you ok! : ) You're not alone in this... So as I said, you have to tell your parents or people that you trust.. Not just anyone, but close friends, or a close teacher for example, anyone that will listen to you , someone you trust basically. I understand why you say you feel ashamed, but really there is no reason for you to feel this way. This was totally out of your control and it could have happened to anyone.. the person that did this to you and to others maybe HAS TO BE REPORTED TO THE POLICE! im not saying you will do it, but somebody has to do it. He may have a few other victims! That loser has to be punished for what he did.. You dont deserve this and it really is too bad that it happened to you, but you will get through this! : ) you need to find the courage and strength inside to face the situation and start off by telling your parents, that's the most important thing to do in my opinion, they will not judge you, they will help you the best way they can! Be strong and please know that in the end, everything will be ok. I wish you the best and please listen to my advice
Life will always be worth living, no matter what, just be strong and know that there will always be people out there that love you, care for you and that will be there to listen to you, because you're an amazing person. God Bless

Answer 3

Did you go to the hospital emergency room or the police right away after the rape?

I have been through this...it is very difficult. YOU NEED SUPPORT. Even though you may not want to tell your parents, you probably should...you will be surprised how supportive parents can be. Also you can look into rape support groups in your area. A crisis line (where you can call and talk to someone during a difficult time) may be helpful. And there is always private psychotherepy.

Don't hold this in....talk to someone...anyone...but just talk.

I never forgot, but I moved past it.

Good luck sweetie, my prayers are with you.

Answer 4

Tell your parents! They will be able to help you. Getting raped is in no way your fault and your parents won't blame you for it. They will be there to support you and to help you get through this emotionally! After you tell your parents, then go to the cops. It will be of your benefit to have your parents with you so that you will feel a little more comfortable. The police can be very intimidating. You need to seek some counseling from a therapist who specializes in sexual assault cases. Not eating for two weeks is bad for your body and you need to take care of yourself. I don't know what it feels like to be raped but I know that if I were to ever be raped, I would confide in the person that is closest to me. Since I am married it would be my husband but when I was unmarried it would of been my parents. You need some emotional support and someones shoulder to cry on! Please tell them!

Answer 5

Listen carefully. This is horrible you have to go through this, no question, but your own road to recovery here is very important and you must take the first step. Right now, call the police, tell them "You want to report a rap" and ask what you should you do. Follow their instructions and get this taken care of as soon as possible.

Answer 6

First, you haven't done ANYTHING wrong. What happened to you is a terrible thing and right now you need the support of your friends and family. This isn't just going to go away. You need to get some help now. I would get in touch with a school counselor or a local women's organization. Just remember that you can recover from this and you will be a stronger person.

Answer 7

Your parents will hurt, but it won't be anything compared to what you are feeling right now. You need to let them know, and let them support you. You also need to take back control of your life, by going to the police, or calling the police, and filing a complaint. You need to do this for yourself, so you can start to heal.
Peace.

Answer 8

I was raped when I was 17, now 22. I suggest that you go to the police station or your local clinic and tell them what had happened. You need to be STD/AIDS/HIV/Pregnancy tested as well. If you would have reported it after it happened they would have gotten more evidence. I'm surprised that none of your friends or family have said anything about your sudden weight loss and antisocialism.

Answer 9

If you were raped, you have nothing to be embarrassed about. You didn't do anything wrong. Unfortuantely since you didn't go to the hospital after this happened, they won't be able to do a rape kit. Contact your local police. They will help you from there. As for your parents, they love you no matter what. This wasn't something that was your fault.

Answer 10

wow i feel really bad for you but you really need to tell your parents and the police..remember no matter how much guilt you feel its NOT your fault..someone seems to have taken advantage of you..If it was a family member that is only more reason to turn them in..You may not be their last victim..so think of that and it will give you power if u dont feel you can tell your parents write them a note or someting..
the only thing is that it will be hard to prove you where raped after 2 weeks..the rape kit may not turn up anything..but you still need to do it before it is too late

Answer 11

Counseling will help out the most. Dont let it run your life. You run your life. Dont let it hold you back, thats the reason why men rape women , to keep them weak. Dont let this get you weak. Dont clam it , but get help and talk it out. After thearpy if you think you can, turn the person in, if you know him. Dont let it run you. Take charge of your life. Keep on living. GOD is good all the time and Good is GOD. Girl seek God and he will pick you up and start you on your way.