What should I do?

Question

My best friend is cheating on her husband, he is a good friend of mine too. I'm caught in the middle because if I tell I lose her as a friend and mess up their marriage, they have a kid and she always feels bad and says she won't do it again. If I don't tell I would lose him as a friend when he does find out. Should I just stay uninvolved? What would you do.

Answer 1

I think no matter how much you might care about your friends, getting involved can only make things worse. If they love each other they will work it out, but don't try to help because this is a really delicate situation. Getting involved can make you lose both of them as friends, but if they work it out together you can be a friend to both of them at a bad time and not an enemy.

Answer 2

Well I don't know what kind of religion you are but in my religion Adultry...One of the 10 Commandments!Breaking the 10 Commandments!!! You should tell her to stop immedietly!!!! She is wrecking their marriage because of something that she is doing! If she says that she won't do it again than she shouldn't do it!!! My half sister's mom is always around somewhere whenshe already has a boyfriend and she is having sex with a bunch of people! But she has kids and a wonderful husband she shouldn't take that risk of losing what she already has! And if this continues you should spill..Don't keep this inside for too long!

Answer 3

I always feel that its best to do the right thing. In this particular situation the right thing is staying out of their business. In the long (or possibly short ) run he will figure out whats going on. There's nothing more embarrassing than for him to hear it from you.

If you need to get involved suggest that your friend seek counseling to figure out why she's cheating. There may be more to the situation than what you see.

Tough sich but you seem like a good friend. Good luck!

Answer 4

Stay as uninvolved as possible. Tell her you don't want to know anything about it so you won't have to lie if he asks.