i am very much dispressed about myself, please friends, help me! how to gain confidence?

Answer 1

The following are ways where you can help yourself in getting confident


1. Like yourself

The first step in becoming more confident is to accept and like yourself. You should make a list of all your positive traits and strengths on a piece of paper or in your diary. By doing this, you are reminding yourself that you too have praise-worthy qualities like others. You will like yourself and feel confident about yourself after this.


2. Attend Seminars

It is good if you attend seminars where professional speakers offer you tips and guidance on gaining confidence. During the speech, you can even pick up tips on public speaking from the speakers by watching their body language and the way they project themselves.


3. Motivate yourself

Whether it is for an interview or for a presentation, tell yourself that you can do it. Motivate yourself each day and soon you will find your confidence level growing. Another good way for motivation is that after work or study each day you should make a list of at least four things that you did well for that day.


4. Overcome fears

Some people always have a fear that they can never be successful in anything they do. Such insecurity will be a disadvantage and would cause you to lack confidence in yourself and in everything you do in your life. So in order for you to get rid of this fear you have to remind yourself that if you haven’t try something you can never say that you will fail in it. Be positive and try things without any fear or insecurity. For example at work your boss is asking you to head a team but you fear that you will make a mess out of it. Such a fear will prevent you from taking on that task at work. But if you were a confident person you wouldn’t think twice about failing and would gladly take on that task. This shows that a lack of confidence could also affect your career.



5. Accept Failures

If you are always crying over the mistakes that you made in your life, you will never get anywhere. Always remember that past mistakes and failures cannot be reversed and what’s done is done. Thus it is no use crying over spilt milk. A confident individual always looks past those failures in his life. After all, failures are juts part and parcel of becoming successful. If you failed once you should take that failure as a learning lesson.

Answer 2

I Know It Sound Corny...But It Helped Me When I Was In This Situation...Write Out All The Things U Do Like About Yourself...Or Call Up A Freind And Ask Them All The Things They Like About U...If It Helps Call 4 Or 5 More...Talk To Relatives, Or Ur Mom Or Even Ur Boyfreind...Ask Them Them Reasons Why They Love You....It Should Really Give U A Big Boost. But NEVER Turn To Self Injuring (Cutting Or Burning Yourself)...Trust Me Thats A BIG Mistake!!

Answer 3

Your way of thinking needs to change. Following are common distortions that cause depression.

1 All or nothing thinking - if not perfect you're a failure
2 Overgeneralization - seeing one negative event as a never-ending pattern of defeat
3 Mental filter - dwelling on a single negative event
4 Disqualifying the positive - insisting they "don't count"
5 Jumping to conclusions - mind reading and anticipating the worst
6 magnification or minimization of importance of things such as your own desirable qualities or the other person's imperfections
7 emotional reasoning - you assume your negative emotions reflect the truth
8 should statements - you try to motivate yourself with shoulds and shoudn'ts
9 labeling and mislabeling - instead of describing your error you attach a negative laabel to yourself such as "I'm a loser"
10 personalization - you see yourself as the cause of some negative external event which in fact you were not primarily responsible for

Answer 4

First let me say that I can relate first hand to the affects of depression. The causes can vary from clinical to circumstantial depression. Regardless of the how and whys of depression the fact remains that it is a miserable feeling.

Confidence is allusive, I believe, regardless of circumstances. There are times when you simply have to endure the pain and wait for the sun to shine again.

For me, a clinically depressed person, my hope is found in a family that loves and excepts me. Most importantly I have a Father in Christ Jesus that I can turn to. I question why I have to bear this weight so often. However, he gives me the strength to take life one day at a time.

My prescription would be to ask him to show you His love when you are hurting. He is our Father, and he will never leave us or forsake us, even when we feel like the weight of the world is on our shoulders.

Keep looking up friend.

~J

Answer 5

Pray and ask God why do i feel this way? anything negative does not come from God. Remember you are created in Gods likeness and image. God tells us we are the crown of all creation. Do not believe the lies of the world. The world thinks for us to be loved we have to look, talk, dress, act a certain way. This is a lie which we were all taught from the time we were born. The next time you are around children watch and listen to them. They are totally dependent on their mother or father. they trust and are free spirits which speak only the truth. Kids always speak with there hearts. This is where God calls us to be. Enter into your inter room scripture tells us.
All creatures reflect in some way the beauty and attributes or qualities of our heavenly father. So when your heart is stirred or aroused with delight consider it an experience of God. when you are moved by a beautiful sunset, a field of flowers, a young childs simplicity it is then at this moment I ask you to pay close attention. God is at that moment speaking and educating you of the fathers love, beauty, qualities of Abba! but recognize how spontaneous these movements of the heart can be! Are they planned by you? often not. From this moment on let your heart be still and listen. Do not be afraid to love how Christ loves. Why? because perfect love cast out all fear and if you think perfect love does not hurt, look at the cross. Everytime Christ wanted to give up, he thought of YOU!!!!

Answer 6

I get depressed when I am not very active. Usually go out and enjoying the night air and getting exercise helps me out. It also sometimes helps to get me motivated to make the most out of my life.
If you feel bad about something negative about you or your actions, just realize that it's not that bad. It's not like you are Hitler or something. Don't take those things to seriously.
If you ever feel like there is something wrong with you because other people's views, stop and analyze who is wrong. You or them. If it might be a little you: go back to the above paragraph.
If you feel terrible about something you can't control, just remember it will get so, so, so much better. Better then you can comprehend right now.

Answer 7

Make a list of all of your good qualities...I have a nice smile, I am a good listener, I like to help people, I do well in school. I'm sure you can come up with tons. If you think of something that is a problem turn it into something good....sometimes I am so honest that I hurt my friend's feelings...turn it into....people respect me because they know that I will be honest no matter what.

And just remember...you are a unique individual, who is special in many different ways...even if you can't see them they still exist...ask people what they like about you.

Answer 8

give yourself a little space for a while. try to get away from your current way of living for a few days. i.e. live different if possible. look back at your actual life from there. and you will know what to do. confidence will come if you are patient for it, never give up on it. that is how you gain confidence friend.

Answer 9

Write down what you like about yourself or what you do well. Then remind yourself every day and do something that you like.
Try finding similar things that you are good at, and people who share that interest. Feeling good about something in your life is a good first step. You could try speaking with a counselor to see if there is a deeper issue.

Answer 10

That's a tough one. I have the same kind of problem. I'm on lexapro now, for the first time. and it has helped me on the depression. things don't seem so massively hopeless when something goes wrong.
Try therapy. Find out who your "inner child" is reacting to- that's what's going on. Really. Psychobabble can work for you! It's helped me a lot.
Good luck!