My husband is in Iraq and the Doc. called and told me I lost our baby. I was a month pregnant. We were trying when he came home on leave. It worked but failed later. I don't know what to do and I can't confide in him while he is away and in a combat zone. Can someone help? What can I do to cope?
2006-06-06 16:39:50 · 9 answers · asked by chey 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
Father, in the Name of Jesus...
We ask that you help Chey through this very trying time in her life. We ask that you dispense your Angelic Hosts of Sympathy and Empathy around her right now.
Father we know that you know how she feels and that ONLY you know how she feels and what she is going through. We ask that you loose Your Spirit of Jehovah Rapha our Healer. For You have said in Your Holy Word: Isaiah 53:5 That by His stripes (Your Loving Son Jesus) we are healed.
We ask that in Your Time You heal Your loving daughter of this unfathomnable pain. Allow her to seek Your Face and that You will be faithful to attend to her hurt and needs. We ask that You send Your Spirit of Agape` Love and minister to her husband and to her jointly over their loss.
We love You Poppa and implore Your Loving Hand in this most needful hour. And we will be mindful to give You all the Glory and Honor these things we ask in thy Son's Loving Name, Jesus.
Selah and Amen!
2006-06-06 19:52:27 · answer #1 · answered by blakelycollierbrown 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm so sorry for your loss. Honey, confide in your husband-even though he is in Iraq he still thinks about you constantly and should be your first line of support. Trust me, even though he is away, he has big shoulders and can handle this and comfort you. Otherwise, wouldn't he ask why you did not confide in him? He will be very hurt. He also needs to feel that although he is far away that you still need and care for him. Do you know any other women that have miscarried? Can you find a support group? Miscarriages are far more common than most people realize, it's just that a lot of them happen before women even know they are pregnant. You need to grieve-if you cannot find someone to talk to, please get professional help from a therapist or grief counselor. And remember, it's OK to cry!
2006-06-06 16:57:40 · answer #2 · answered by sweetiepie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm so sorry to hear of that sweetie. It's such a heartbreaking experience to have a miscarriage. I had one when I was 11 weeks and 4 days with a previous pregnancy, and have had several 'threatened' miscarriages with this pregnancy.
One thing that I really found help me to cope was to think about the joy that the baby did bring for the short time that it was in this world. I would rather have that experience, than to never have conceived a child at all.
My faith in God also helped me through. He has a plan for everyone, and although we may not always like that plan, it is his will.
I was admitted to hospital after complications with my first D&C and was advised to speak to the hospital counsellor.
I also joined a miscarriage forum, where I found a lot of support from other women who have gone through the same experiences as I had. It really helped me to be able to talk about with other people. I'll include the link to it so you can visit if you like.
God bless
2006-06-06 17:43:03 · answer #3 · answered by Jade 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is the first time I've ever gone into a website like this. I am 7 months pregnant and am having a really rough time myself. But to help you, I was 6 months pregnant last year when I lost my baby boy, Gabriel. It gets better, it really does, but you'll never really get over it. It's something that you'll think about every day. Just out of the blue, you'll cry, but just realize, this was God's plan. For some reason, he wanted your baby back, and now, your baby is in a better place looking down at you. So take the time you need to grieve, and when you're ready, you'll tell your husband. It's just something that happens, it's life. But one day, you'll be fine.
2006-06-06 17:00:41 · answer #4 · answered by Sophia 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to grieve. I hope your doctor told you that at such an eary stage of pregnancy it is common to lose a fetus. The body will spontaneously abort if the fetus isn't forming properly. It happens a lot, and many, many women don't even know it because it is so early in the pregnancy. It's nothing you did or anything you could help. You have to tell your husband though.
2006-06-06 16:45:51 · answer #5 · answered by tsopolly 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh honey, I am so sorry for your loss. The best way I know to cope is to talk to family, friends, possibly a grief counselor. Go to your local red cross and they will be able to point you in the right direction of one.
I lost a baby a few years ago and to be honest, you never really "Get over it" as some people say. The best thing to do is talk to family and friends.
You have my support and prayers.
Melanie.
2006-06-06 16:45:46 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
last yr. i was a month preg. when i lost the baby i had a little bit of a hard time coping too...the only way one can think to is to accept the fact that god said that it wasnt ur time to have a baby....it is an experiance that daddys should be there to have..and maybe this is gods way of saying that .
2006-06-06 16:44:36 · answer #7 · answered by beaiipurple 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-11-14 07:34:39 · answer #8 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I can listen to you if you need someone to talk to.. I haven't been thru this myself but my heart goes out to you. I am here if you need me.
2006-06-06 16:46:58 · answer #9 · answered by fairytalemom 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋